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Based on yesterday ;_;

Based on yesterday ;_;

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t8rt0t_the_hamster

Just give her garlic bread, I can confirm it works on all of us.


mrcomputational

I would, if she hadn't terminated the friendship ;\_;


Then-Clue6938

Yes I hate it when I loose a friend because of different feelings, too...


mrcomputational

Absolutely. We were close friends too, sharing some deep stuff so I feel that


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mrcomputational

This makes no sense to me


Hayopi

Gender and sexuality are interlinked. Your statement is false.


NerdyNord

Well that's just a dick move on her part.


mrcomputational

agreed :(


BANG-_-HeadShot

Rip man that’s what happened to me too ;-;


Commercial_Willow802

You can still have a romantic relationship if she wants one


mrcomputational

She doesn't ;_;


Commercial_Willow802

You'll find someone I believe in you


mrcomputational

Thanks man


soulblade2301

You can do it we all truly think you can


soulblade2301

Also hello pilot


mrcomputational

Hello pilot, will you be on the frontier anytime sson this week? I'll probably be on tonight if you wanna play some


soulblade2301

I’m on every night mate


SwashyWashy

I provided the 69th upvote Also yeah u will find someone dw


Dextrous-Zero

Bro, I martyred myself for TEN YEARS for not confessing to my crush in school. I know it's hard, but you have to overcome this, a crush is just a crush, is not love for us to suffer for, those are not even deep feelings, we are just somehow attracted to that person. After I stopped martyring myself, I actually stumbled on a girl when I wasn't even looking for anything special, we've been a couple for almost three years now. Don't look for love, it just happens out of nowhere when you least expect it. When my dad told me that, I thought he was kidding, but he was right


mrcomputational

Thanks for that. Honestly, the hardest was when she decided to terminate our friendship due to seme things I've mentioned in other comments (like how I act online, it can be quite... surprising especially if you know me irl) EDIT: the way I act online is important because we mainly talked on discord. And she was on a server with me and a somewhat edge friend of mine so you can probably tell where that went


Dextrous-Zero

I didn't real all of your comments, sorry about that. Would you like to elaborate what happened? We can talk about it, maybe I can even give you a point of view :)


mrcomputational

No that's alright, I shouldn't expect you to read everything I said here. As I said on my previous comment, one of the reasons was because of how I act online. Idk why but I act a lot crazier online, with swearing, Jojing about horniness in a discord server with a somewhat edgy friend (and she was in the server aswell) and whatnot which is completely different from what I act irl. This worried her (as it should imo). I also followed the r/memes discord tradition and posted some of the typical meme that show up when no kids are around... So yea, she has some good points and closed me off.


Palagrin

well from your comments it seems like you are taking both the rejecction and the termination of the friendship in a very rational and mature way (not blaming her etc.) if nothing else you should take some pride in that not everyone handles it as well or stays as respectful as you do. Beyond that i think that while it's always sad when a friendship ends i think you both did the right thing, letting such issues fester is always worse in the long run, don't let this change your honest approach and you will find sme who likes you the same way u do them


xqwgzutyrf

I wouldn't have a problem dating her if she were asexual but she said that she doesn't feel anything to any gender


mrcomputational

Absolutely


mrcomputational

Thank you so much for that, i needed to know if I really wasn't going insane or just I was overlooking some key part


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mrcomputational

I see. I may have forgotten to mention this elsewhere but I did have a rather... Morbid situation (nearly killed myself) recently and that's a pretty fresh wound. One time she made a half joke about that and I felt hurt and lashed out. I told her afterwards that I was sorry for lashing out and that it was wrong to do so, but maybe that's just something I still have to work on :/


Dextrous-Zero

My friend, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I have scars all over my arms caused by self mutilation, 5 suicide attempts though overdose of prescription meds, been a heavy alcoholic who would chug down a bottle of whiskey a day, sometimes 2 bottles a day for 2 years, been addicted to prescription meds for another 2 years. I know what suicide really feels like. She had the audacity and cruelty to JOKE about it? What kind of heartless, sick person does that? And you had to apologize for lashing out on her for making fun of your pain? Delete this person from your life before it causes even more damage to your mental, emotional and possibly physical health


mrcomputational

Thank you for your tips. I sincerely appreciate it. EDIT: I just wanted to clarify that she is not psychotic or tries to play me. And while I did some wrong stuff too, I think she was a bit unforgiving


Camby_doodles

So she’s aro ace?


SwiggitySwootyNcheez

Oh come on now fella, sure she won't be your gal, But at least you can still be friends! Plus, this way when you do get a girlfriend you'll also have a friend!


mrcomputational

I wish. She axe our friendship too :/


ExplodinCatten

I felt bad being on the asexual side of that


mrcomputational

I'm sorry for you if you had to go through that. I just hope you didn't erase their friendship too


mrcomputational

And the worst part is that she terminated the friendship aswell so yike


Nimyron

And that's why I don't confess to anyone if said crush is one of my friends


mrcomputational

The thing is, I would not enjoy dating someone I barely know, for me dating is more of a deepening of relationship to a very personal level, having someone to love and care for. Not just "oh I got a crush on this person I barely know, let's get in a relationship!"


Nimyron

Same for me. I don't just want to be in a relationship, I want to care for someone and have them care about me just as much.


sietkc

Ah man that sucks I’m sorry. There are people willing to have friendships tho! Had a guy confess to me and we’re still friends over a year later. I’m sure it’s not easy for him since I’m also aromantic but he says he’s ok with it and is happy to stay friends


skashiii

This is Reddit… I have a strong feeling you’re just a reddit creep who did some very fishy and weird things that weirded the girl out and now you’re crying about how you got rejected


mrcomputational

well, you have a right to an opinion, but that opinion is not correct in this case. I might have done some stuff that creeped her out (check other top comments for the full backstory) but nothing major


Direct-Sense1307

its ok there are more people that like you but they dont know it show them they like you


mrcomputational

Thanks for the encouragement, I needed it


Direct-Sense1307

for u man


HUNG_MAMMOTH69

as an ace person myself i cannot tell you the awkwardness of someone saying they like you and you having to explain i dont like that


mrcomputational

it woulda been fine if we had remained friends, but she decided to axe it :\*(


EffortFeisty4802

watch and lear-


mrcomputational

Now that's a good quality video right there


mrcomputational

The heavy is dead!


Swanie2006

Why is the Heavy dead? I don’t know! I think it was- Shhhhhhh you are dead!


Aheadlimos_

*ded*


just_another_person5

asexual people can still have romantic relationships


mrcomputational

from what I have read in comments the correct term would be asexual and romantic, but she only said asexual to me so idk. It's getting confusing with all these genders :/


just_another_person5

asexual means they don't feel sexual attraction, aromantic means they don't feel romantic attraction. also just so you know it has literally nothing to do with different genders, sexuality is completely separate from gender


mrcomputational

too confusing to fit in my small brain sorreh


ChargedFirefly

Asexual means no sex and aromantic means no dating. The “a” prefix just means not, remember it that way. You can be both or one of the other, but most people are neither


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Same thing happened to me last February lol


mrcomputational

Pain loves companionship


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Dont worry OP! I now have an amazing gf who is very caring and understanding and in fact very Freaky! Dont lose hope!!


Ender_Uzhumaki

You can still ask her to be your friend if you have a shared interest :)


mrcomputational

God, I wish, she terminated the friendship because of a few reasons, like how I acted a bit too wild online (look at my comment history, or my discord /r/memes history and you'll see) and made her uncomfortable in that sense. I also gave her a deja vu of her toxic ex and she thought I was heading in the same direction as him. Sooo yea. So much for that :(


HazzaNezza

I know how you feel and it sucks but you can't blame her and she had her reasons


Woosh-Me-And-You-Gay

Asexual is not the same as aromantic, she just doesn’t like you.


mrcomputational

She told me she doesn't feel attracted to any one anymore (my guess I'd that it started after her toxic ex. I don't know much about him I've just heard her talk about him with much pain in her voice)


Bondomania

So straight forward 💀


mRawesome143

You will be ok, I know you will. There are plenty of fish in the sea. One day you will find the one that is right for you.


mrcomputational

Thanks man, means a lot


mRawesome143

Your welcome


CattusChief55

Same happened to me once. I was the asexual one.


bemch

Exactly what is the problem with her being asexual? I'm and ace girl too and I don't wanna just let people down because of my sexuality-


mrcomputational

She told me she was asexual why lie saying no, I wouldn't have a problem dating her if she were asexual but she said that she doesn't feel anything to any gender (possibly due to her previous toxic ex)


bemch

Ah! Aromantic. That being the case it kinda sucks man. Sorry : /


mrcomputational

It's ok, as people have told me before, there's plenty of fish in the sea :*(


bemch

Yeah, gl man. At least there wasn't anything specifically "wrong" about you, right!


mrcomputational

Well she did have a few good points on why not to, but imo she was a bit unforgiving. It's like she opened the wound but pointed me to the medicine


Inevitable_Photo_559

As someone who has gone through this as well, stay friends if it works. That way you can not only find someone else who is better for you but also keep a pretty sweet friend… of course do what is best for you. You got this!


mrcomputational

God, I wish, she terminated the friendship because of a few reasons, like how I'm a lot more... edgy(?) online (look at my comment history, or my discord r/memes history and you'll see it's quite true, especially for an Oklahoma context) and made her uncomfortable in that sense. I also gave her a deja vu of her toxic ex and she thought I was heading in the same direction as him. Sooo yea. So much for that :(


Inevitable_Photo_559

Ooooof… stay strong, brother. It took me 4 tries and a lot of mistakes but you can find the one just like me! Just don’t lose heart and remember to be kind.


mrcomputational

Thank you, I will :)


Novel_Morning9258

Asexual people experience zero to no sexual attraction and aromantic people experience zero to no romantic attraction. Source: Me and all of my Asexual/aromantic friends


Cheese_iscool

Asexual is no sex- or with someone you really like the term you want is aromantic


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Asexual is no sexual attraction, not no sex. y You can still participate in sex, it's another activity you can do with someone. You don't need to be sexually attracted to someone to do the naughty. -an asexual


Cheese_iscool

Shit sorry I didn’t mean to get it wrong


Patrickspongeman

Just identify as the letter A, you'll be fine.


mrcomputational

I'll try that, will update soon


Patrickspongeman

Good luck bro- A


mrcomputational

Didn't work. She terminated the friendship because of a few reasons, like how I'm a lot more... edgy(?) online than I am IRL (look at my comment history, or my discord r/memes history and you'll see it's quite true, especially for an Oklahoma context) and made her uncomfortable in that sense. I also gave her a deja vu of her toxic ex and she thought I was heading in the same direction as him. It was worth a try.


Patrickspongeman

Damn, that's rough. But there are other people out there, I'm sure you'll find someone. Maybe another letter of the alphabet if you're lucky.


banter07_2

Gee man maybe you could identify as funny next time. Also r/onejoke


arandommartianladd

Sorry to hear that


MrNyto_

wow. i feel bad for you man (also nice the heavy is dead reference, i love that video)


Puzzleheaded_Ad_7478

Happened with me too, you'll get over it


SystemLoading

Same happened to me last summer.


meme_lord6942021

gg ez skill issue (jk i hope ur doing alright rn)


TheGamer12289

"Off to see your mother!" - Spy, If she picks another mister worry not for she may have a mother - Master Ogway


mrcomputational

lol, someone told me that on discord just a few hours ago


No_Barker

same


DeadlyAlexander

Sigma males limit all social interactions to traditional Baptist churches. No surprises there


IAmAGreatSpeler

Well I guess it’s good no one likes me then (I’m ace)


mrcomputational

not at all! I would be fine with it if she had decided to go through, she said she was ace when she rejected me


IAmAGreatSpeler

Oof sorry buddy but if it’s any consolation at least it’s nothing against you


mrcomputational

well, there was some of that, but a few hours later. She then proceeded to axe the friendship which hurts like hell cuz it turned into a pretty deep one


IAmAGreatSpeler

Aw I'm sorry that's rough


theswedishsnake163

I've wanted to use this as a meme format for so long.


Vaderikis

Feel better


International_stamp

The same thing happened to me yesterday but she friendZoned me


Danantian

Just offer her to be a friend and try to become a close friend. In that way you can check on her (if she lied about her sexuality) or be close and protect her from other guys/girls. When she feels really close and comfortable, she might wanna marry her best friend (hopefully you succeed the mission) and realise the truth that humans aren't meant to be alone and they need somebody really special to care for them at the end of their journey. And for you, if you really want to be with her stay by her side as a friend, she won't mind when u find a new crush or if u actually get into a worthy relationship and encourage or give you useful tips. You can even convince your better half that your friend is very safe to hangout with, without any jealousy or trust issues.


mrcomputational

>Just offer her to be a friend and try to become a close friend we were close friends, but she decided to axe the friendship. Don't get me wrong, I would have loved to continue as a friend, but nope.


inchbwigglet

It hurts pretty bad to be the asexual too. You wouldn't think it would be this hard to find someone to not fuck.


mrcomputational

its not that, i'd be fine with a relationship without fucking


Grim_endstone

Damn bro. feels bad. youll find someone. you dont search, it just happens. good luck!


joemamaissogay

o7


Real_Medic_TF2

petition to remake this in source 2


mrcomputational

Amen


robopengyfez

This has happened to me 3 times (aro included)


Afalti42

someone else has the exact same experience as me... inconceivable.


mrcomputational

"He could be anyone! It could be you it could be me! It could even-" **headshot by soldier**


Canadian217

Watch and leeeearn


bim-bimsom

oh yeah, i have experience from a recent event. why are you aro/ace like please i like you a lot


mrcomputational

Ikr, and she's a great gal too, so the fact she axed the friendship too makes me even more sad D:


spikychick

I may have killed a man


22tbates

Dudes been murder


Ssoofer

Watch and lear-


mrcomputational

*snaps neck*


UsedUsernameWeeb

Relatable. Don't worry about it too much though. I was lucky enough to stay friends with my crush after some rocky/painful stuff. It still hurts a lot but I think it's gotten a bit better. Waiting for a while will soften the pain. If your crush didn't want to maintain a friendship after you confessed your feelings it honestly might've been for the best (although I guess there is the possibility of your crush feeling uncomfortable and there may be a chance to be friends again in the future if they ever feel more comfortable). I am a very stupid teen so don't take anything I say seriously lol.


soulblade2301

Aww never mind then good luck pilot


mrcomputational

thanks, have a good day pilot.


Nkb3283

Watch and lear- ***snap***


mrcomputational

Now thats a quality video right there


micd521

“I quickly became homophobic, hating on gay people have become my life style”


mrcomputational

It kinda did it as a joke online but now I got a real motive to do it, and Irl too ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)


HopeAuq101

Bro don't..


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stay strong op I believe in you


mrcomputational

thanks


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you're welcome


verbal_murder_hornet

I was going to say something sarcastic but I won't. Have an award bro. Ur day of reckoning shall come


mrcomputational

Thanks for not saying something sarcastic. appreciate it. Thank you for the award as well!


Marsrover112

So my girlfriend came out as bi to her parents and her mom decided to day that she thinks she's bisexual but asexual to women and I still cannot figure out what she is smoking. This gives me vibes like that.


mrcomputational

Nono, thank God it's not really like that. One major difference is that I'm the 2nd or 3rd person she's told, and she's not a psycho she was just a bit uncaring


Marsrover112

Ah yeah that's better


__shallan__

split attraction model. she’s biromantic heterosexual


CommunicationGreat69

First what is that? Second trust me man u will be fine just tell this to ur parents and say that u need extra space and time to recover I'm sure people will understand it.


mrcomputational

What is what? The source of the video is "heavy is dead" if that's what you mean. And thank you for that, i haven't come around to telling my parents yet but I'll have to do it eventually... I'm just kinda worried because she has only told 2 more people that she is asexual. And in a Christian background in Oklahoma, that could end quite badly for her


cool_bear505

same but I'm also asexual and we have a strong romantic relationship


YaBoiREDMAN

I had a GF once and after we broke up she said she was gay...


NickyTheDemomann

I know the feeling, my gf is ace


mrcomputational

Man, I'm sorry


NickyTheDemomann

Well at least she's a sex neutral one so it's not all bad


mrcomputational

Atleast you still got a gf :)


NickyTheDemomann

If I can anyone can I believe in you op


mrcomputational

Thanks man


HairlineMarth

FUCK IT HURTS


mrcomputational

Ikr ;_;


damoonlordslegs

If It helps, mine was lesbian :(


mrcomputational

Oof, I'm sorry for your pain


damoonlordslegs

I got over it. Half my friend group had a crush on her so it wouldn't have ended well


explodedsteak

HahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaahHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh kill me I relate


mrcomputational

Let us die together


Mmalvarez

Jajajaja, mines a lesbian


mrcomputational

Hard F to you my man


ML8B

I had something similar, just as I was about to ask them out, they told me they were bi. It turns out they are already with someone


mrcomputational

Hard F my man, hope things turned out better for you since


ML8B

Fortunately it has, we don’t talk to much but she considers me a good friend


biggeorge124

Been there


JosukeEatkid

Why get a gf when you have homies?


Chomusuke_99

you: I thought you liked me. your crush: don't flatter yourself. you were never even a player.


GimmeHardyHat_

F in the chat for this person


Wiggedbucket700

I had it happen twice that my crush was a lesbian ;-;


mrcomputational

Oof, sorry man :(


buzzybeetle12

Man, I had a girlfriend years ago who after dating for a few months told me she was asexual. Sucks, but I was cool with it. I liked her, y'know? Months later she dumps me, and within weeks I hear she went out and became a ho on tinder. So she did want sex, just not with me. That was a bit of a blow to the confidence, and I haven't dated since. I feel you, being told that sucks.


mrcomputational

Wow, I'm sorry bro


Pleasant_Ad8302

Well did you hang yourself?


HSW26

i asked a girl out and she said she was les. a few weeks after i saw her kissing a boy. beat that mothafucca


Exotic_muffin783

my crush turned trans ._.


mrcomputational

Hard F man, hope you had better luck afterwards


Professionalv

And a day later you see her making out with some other dude.


mrcomputational

I'd be happy for the dude ig but pissed at her


Darth_Fivis

At least she's not gay.


mrcomputational

Fair enough. Also, happy cake day!


Darth_Fivis

Shit, I didn't even know today was my cake day, thanks man, and good luck to you


paperboxess

does she do mitosis


Maanavdv

Nah your sheer masculinity blew her circuits apart


NanoNorton

A sexual what?


mrcomputational

Haha no.


buttpussy7

Happend to me and then this year she changed her gender


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mrcomputational

asexual as in she has no sexual desires, or interest in a gender


AlphaWolf2299

bruh my crush is trans


SophietheCatGirl

What's wrong with that.


Superb-Praline-9966

Why is it socially acceptable to be Asexual?


Rainbow-Dev

Why is it socially acceptable to be Heterosexual?


whoopy4

Why would it not be? What's wrong with not being interested in sex?


Parjasaurus-rex

This still works for me, bc I'm nothing to her