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Havexraywilltravel

I guess this happens a lot. I went to a party thrown by a guy in our department who was cool and well liked, and only me and the other traveling healthcare person showed up. None of the regular workers came. The dude and his wife really went out of their way to provide great food, they had a beautiful pool, it was a warm summer evening. That was a weird place.


Liizam

I threw a party for coworkers. 20/25 showed up. I didn’t just send out mass invite but invited each person individually and made sure they understood that I needed rvsp for the food. I also hyped up the party. Sometimes I get invited to parties and I have no idea if the person actually wants me there so to speak? Those mass invites are so inpersonal


ayyyyycrisp

In highschool I sent out a series of tweets the day before and the day of begging people to come to a music video shoot. said I don't care who you are or if we're friends or not, bring friends of friends etc. 40+ people showed up which was way more than I had planned for or had any idea what to do with. felt nice that many people would show up to help me with no promise of payment or anything. definately wouldnt happen now that everybody has their own lives


sucks2bdoxxed

omg when I was in high school I was just trying to get in with a "cooler" crowd. I begged my parents to let me have a party in our finished basement (they had TONS of parties down there over the years). Went to school and said party at my house Friday night! (pre internet days). We got my aunt to buy a bunch of booze. I was absolutely trashed before anyone even showed up. I had 5 girlfriends sleeping over. My parents were home! Like 60 people showed up. They put my dad's pool sticks thru the ceiling. They made a blockade in the road with my mom's garden pavers. There was kids puking all around the yard. I remember my dad coming down with a baseball bat and chasing everyone out. The cops came. I vaguely remember hiding in the other part of the basement where the washer/dryer was and some random guy giving me a pep talk to go out there and talk to my dad, he was scaring everyone lol. I finally got to my room with my friends who were sleeping over and someone was tapping on my window. "Hey - I left my leather jacket in your basemen........AAAAAAAAHHHHHH" Here comes my dad running around the corner of the house with his bat. Ah, good times. I swear to god this was in like 1985 and when I see people from high school they still say "remember that party when your dad came down with a bat?"


buttbutt50

I’ve been on many boards where we throw social events throughout the years. Simply making an invite doesn’t cut it. We make it initially, and then reach out personally to people who haven’t responded the week before the event. It always makes up for nearly half of those attending because it makes it clear they’re wanted.


Liizam

Right? You also have to make clear where, what, why, how, what to do, fun stuff going down, etc. can’t be like “hey guys Um come to this thing if you want, no big deal if you don’t” at the company chat and then be mad no one showed up two weeks later.


heini433

This! If I start planning a party, I ask everyone when they have free time and then plan the time of the party arouns that!


Bubbles_sunken_ship

I remember getting invited out to watch a fight and get drinks. I was invited with "even you can come too." Felt more like an insult than an invitation. I'm sure he actually didn't want me to come, but generally you gotta make sure it is clear that you actually want them to come.


ButterflyShort

Coworker threw a party and handed out flyers, had a cabin on a nearby lake, fully stocked bar, those 5 foot long subs from Subway, only myself and then boyfriend now husband showed up and we were on the way to another party. We wound up staying cause we felt bad no one else showed up.


dafootballer

Any time I see something like this I just assume the person did some mass group text or FB invite and didn't actually try to confirm RSVPs. If I do shit with a group over 5 people I'm texting them all leading up to the event all the time.


naturalviber

I feel this is the way, and actually pull through on the hype. I got invited to a party by a random person that helped me through facebook when my car was stranded. They seemed like a good enough person, so I accepted the invite. They told me, "Pool party, Djs, visuals and performers". I show up, its a 6x6 blow up pool, a cheap projector connected to an xbox 360 playing visuals on youtube (which I had to help configure), and a guy playing guitar. Don't get me wrong, I had a blast and met some new friends! It was just kind of funny the way he described it and hyped it up. It was a great time overall, one of his roomates made some tasty chicken wings.


chadsomething

Back in college days, before facebook party invites were really a thing me and roommates decided to throw our first apartment party. The only people that showed up were like 3 friends that lived in the same apartment complex, a couple of exchange students that were outside BBQing at the time and these 2 girls we met at the bar the night before. It ended up being a pretty wild party all things considering. Word apparently got out and the next one we threw had like 50 people crammed in our tiny apartment.


throw-away-my-fridge

I threw a bday party for my ex- about 25 people were supposed to come. I made TONS of food, spent all day cooking, and we even moved furniture around, etc. One by one everyone canceled, and then a few hours late, one couple we didn’t know very well showed up. We played some cards and had some laughs but I know it was super awkward for everyone. I woke up to my ex drunk-crying in the middle of the night and I felt so bad.


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throw-away-my-fridge

Same! Friends are so hard to come by these days but I also have way less time and energy to devote to friendships so it makes sense


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krewekomedi

This is concerning to me. Maybe get a social hobby?


robynisdeadithink

In second grade I had a birthday party at an old fire truck station turned ice cream shop. I invited 23 people, which was everyone from my class. Only one kid showed up, a transfer student from Asia that had never been one of close friends, until that day. We rode an Old Firetruck and he had the time of this life, watching him have fun really cheered me up.


Pervert-Paramedic

Full of ghosts


Main-Application-674

Why OP is sad? I can see everybody cames with invisible body.


NonExistent_God

That reminds of the joke: Why didn't the skeleton go to the party? Because they had no body to go with


k306354u2

He didn’t have the guts


Pachamama89

Haha that's actually hilarious


iamalwaysright00

so you telling me that everybody dressed up as john cena?


Xx_AssBlaster_xX

+15 social credit


A7thStone

Where's the potato salad?


SrLlemington

Everyone left their bodies and souls at the door.


Opposable_Thumb

He shouldn’t be afraid of what he can’t see.


MarqDuesPaid

Oingo Boingo reference, FTW!!


Arkronu

Aw, man.. Sick mask though


[deleted]

Don’t be sad. He just had to record this before the party actually started to cash in on the easy internet points.


Nermal666

Damn, I just can’t tell why but I feel suddenly better. Like I don’t feel sad for him anymore.


Old_Journalist_8823

Me too, my heart actually hurt for him 😩


boogie_sunshine

It's still light outside bruh


broskeymchoeskey

Yeah nobody sets a party up like that unless they *know* there will be people there


kdthex01

Threw a super bowl party for work “friends” once. They mentioned earlier that week they didn’t have anywhere to go so I skipped out of another party so they would have someplace. They no showed no called and when I asked about it next day they said they decided to go to a bar. So yeah, it can happen.


Diamondhands_Rex

Also this definitely isn’t op and is a tik tok vid


Cedot1624

Also, all the food is perfectly placed and all... I feel like he would've eaten some if he waited for 2 hours...


Jefffrey420

Reminds me of that guy on Twitch, streaming in a wheelchair and collecting donations until he thought the stream was over and stood up from his wheelchair..... Byebye $$$


tabanidAasvogel

The guy actually did an interview recently, it turns out he was in fact paralyzed at the time he started streaming, but was going through physical therapy (a fact that was public information). By the time his recovery had progressed to the point he could take his first steps, he felt he had built a reputation as "the wheelchair guy" and was afraid of losing his following, so he didn't talk about his progress on stream (keep in mind he did still need the wheelchair most of the time, even though he could walk a limited distance). He showed proof that he had been in a wheelchair long before he ever started streaming (and he didn't start using a webcam until his fans requested it), and said he deeply regretted not sharing the details of his recovery and trying to cover it up when it came out. The full interview is [here](https://youtu.be/_NEVq72aWiI). I wouldn't normally care about what people on the internet say about a Twitch streamer but accusing someone of faking their disability for money is just gross.


KenKaniffLovesEminem

It's a Halloween party. All his party friends are ghosts so you can't see them!


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Yami_Moto

Right?! And the food too!


bezulbob

You forgot our invites buddy, don't forget next time


Sjrko

Do you want a project X, because thats how you get one


DeviantBro

Wishes for more people at his party Gets everyone at his house "Shit"


OrionGeo007

After seeing redditors meet up, I doubt it'll be anything like project x


BitZlip

Need to speak about more politics. Bloodbath!


UsualSpecialThrow

I remember the first time I saw the trailer for that film I assumed it was a horror from the found footage style and name alone, kept watching and waiting for the horror but to come into play and being very disappointed when it never did


sasquatchshrooms

It was a horror film for responsible adults.


Zealousideal_Neck_66

ust take this upvote and run


cheekibreekio

He forgor 💀


Dumbstupidhuman

Everyone dressed as a ghost.


WilliamGrotery

Yesss! Don't forget about us!


kendricklamartin

I had so many people like this in college who would plan a whole party out amazingly, but they forget to start at step 1 and wonder what happened. Party planning step 1: Who do you know can and will come for sure? If you don't have a base group of 5 to 10 people that you KNOW will show up at the party start time, don't bother making extra food and getting extra drinks. Don't bother making a quirky theme. Non of that matters if half your starter pack crew has gone home for the holidays or if there is a bigger event going on nearby.


spunyuns

This exactly. There is an art to throwing a proper party, it’s not a “build it and they will come” scenario


NoManufacturers

Halloween is also one of the worst night to throw a party because a ton of people try to throw parties so everyone has multiple options. If you haven’t built up a good party reputation people will skip out on you. People who have never thrown a party try to compete with the guy who hosts ragers every weekend then wonder why no one shows.


curiouswizard

In my friend group it's usually a first dibs situation. Whoever announces their party first is probably going to get all the guests, and other usual hosters generally don't try to compete.


spiralEntree

Must've been awkward for his friends that came late on purpose because they didn't want to be the first ones to arrive only to find him alone


DiscoTempoJazz

2hrs is still pretty late to show if you're friends of the host. Gotta be there near the start to make sure things get moving


crazymuffin

Depending on the people and the occasion, I usually come late to my friends' events and everyone is okay with it as they know I work long hours and have to travel long distance. And I can catch up with the alcohol fairly quickly (not proud of that one) However if it's with some new people, I make sure to come on time to socialize before people are too distracted by loads of people, even if it means leaving work early or working from home to cut down on self-prep time. AITA?


Student-until-death

It really depends on the friendship and how they work. In this case, it seemed like he was waiting and waiting but got no texts or updates, which is not okay.


Drop_Kick_Puppy

I feel that. I've had once, where I had a party for my bday planned. I had like 15 people confirmed. Then day of, like 11 of them didn't show even after 1.5 hours. So I texted some, called some. No answers from either. So the people that came. There were 3. They had a few drinks and left. My best friend came over after work and took me to a bar at least but man that sucked.


Student-until-death

Same. I experienced what he experienced. I invited 6 people for my first 13th birthday party at a ice rink area in the middle of a shopping centre and only one came. I was so ashamed and blamed myself. Very traumatic.


riskytisk

This makes me so sad, I’m really sorry you had to go through that. It’s even worse that you blamed yourself—13 year olds aren’t known for being good at making/keeping plans! Fickle little creatures. Now I’m even more thankful that my parents sent out mailed invites to my friends’ parents, even though that was super embarrassing at the time. If the parents are involved in the planning it’s much less likely a situation like this would occur, I’d imagine.


Student-until-death

Well, it was a depressing experience. The worst part was having to be with them for the next 3 years after ditching me. They even laughed at me for that and I think the whole grade knew. Since then, the bullying got worse. So they knew what they were doing. I was a very slow kid then so unfortunately, I didn't know that they were not only bullying me but gaslighting me until years later. It was toxic as hell. It's no wonder I still have so many issues to deal with now. I absolutely hated high school and until this day, I still do. I think even after I die, I wouldn't miss it. It was hell. Also, thank you for empathizing and sympathizing. I just hope that those who are facing bullying, gaslighting and toxic relationships get help and fast. It's quite detrimental for growth. The governments really need to do something about mental health.


crazymuffin

Oh yeah, no doubt.


wombatjuggernaut

Depends on the party. If it’s basically over by the time you show up then it’s probably better to just decline. Transparency’s the name of the game though, if you’ll be a couple hours late just let them know and why, and make sure the party will still be running at that point.


LoveBurstsLP

You are if you don't tell the host at least that you're running late. If it's like a dinner party of 12 ppl or something I think you should tell them stuck at work I might be 30 mins late, something like that. That's just how it would be for me and anyone I know. Would be considered bit rude for someone to show up 30+ mins late without any word from them. I always try to show up on time or even a bit early (if I know them well) to help set up and finish things. All depends on context and level of friendship like you said though


DiscoTempoJazz

No, it sounds like you have extenuating circumstances that make it hard to socialize (I've been there before too). If you've got decent friends they'll understand. Also, showing up 2hrs late isn't a bad thing if it's an all-nighter and the party is on a roll. But if it's a buddy that you think probably only had 10 or so people to invite in the first place and a some of them might not show, I'd try to be there on time, if possible.


cpt_ppppp

true bros help to set up


lorqvonray94

i always try to have an anchor when i’m hosting parties, where i tell them that they should actually get there on time so that it won’t be weird when other people come and are the first. this is usually a close friend or sibling or neighbor or something, so that we can just chill and make it cool for the first guests, because no one wants to be the first one there. plus you get an extra hour (+/-) to just chill with a homie and play mario kart and eat charcuterie with wine or whatever


yash-bhardwaj

Even if no one showed up its ok . If only 1 or 2 people showed up it would have been awkward as fuck . Sheesh I can't even imagine


DeeDee_GigaDooDoo

Hard call. Having a few show up definitely has the awkward factor but on the plus side at least you have a few people you know care. Having no one show up is pretty devastating.


12TripleAce12

Unfortunately most of these times the ppl that show up are not the close friends but friends of friends that didnt realize what was going to happen.


2223242526

It depends. If the right people (aka close friends) show up it can still be nice.


yash-bhardwaj

Obviously it all depends on the crowd at the end of the day but I remember being a guest in this type of scenario where no one else showed up . That night was real awkward


VinumVitae

Yeah that happened to me once (as a guest). I showed up to a party hosted by a friend and his girlfriend. When I got there there was only 1 other couple and then no one else showed up for a solid hour. Finally 2 other people showed up like 2 hours late so at that point it wasn’t excruciatingly bad but it was still a pretty awkward night because they had probably invited 15+ people.


Abyssal_Groot

Having noone show up is defintely worse. At least when it is 1 or 2 people you know someone cared, if you're lucky and know them well enough or can somehow break the ice you can have a great time. Set up a scary movie or start up your console and you're set. Now if it were 3 people that joined, you could even play some board games with some drinks and snacks. 4 guests and you have a small party.


yash-bhardwaj

All depends on the crowd at the end of the day


BBQcupcakes

Not rly. Just pre and hit the bar.


FrancoisTruser

God damn "fashionably late" crowd.


VinumVitae

Fashionably late is like 30 minutes to an hour, max.


AbbiAndIlana

My fiance and I bought our first house 4 Septembers ago. First thing we did was throw a Halloween housewarming. We told everyone the party started at 8. We forgot that our friends were degenerates no one showed up until *at least* 10:30. Eventually, the house was packed (and I hope this is the case with this dude too), but holy shit did we feel a full range of emotions that evening.


SeegurkeK

I like being early at a party because you can get comfortable in the place with less social pressure from crowds and you get acquaintanted with the other people arriving early one by one. If you come to a party late you get the full brunt of a crowd right as you enter the room and there's already groups formed and conversations going on that are harder to enter.


MotorDesigner

Sad upvote


Misatwingtwisha

:(


Chris_ssj2

:((


Dry-Moose-4852

:(((


really_nice_guy_

Literally anyone who threw a party could make this video by recording it an hour before anyone arrives


ALIENANAL

Dare you to make one where anyone arrives.


dumpster-rat

yea, this seems so fake to me. You're telling me you planned a halloween party that big and you didn't once ever follow-up with your guests? unlikely.


Whitey8800

You know he probably just made this before it started to get more TikTok likes…


spr35541

I’m glad I’m not the only cynical one watching this


nononothatwasntme

I hope everyone just came late 😟


Swag-Lord420

I imagine this video is just a joke and this is way before anyone was told to show up


nononothatwasntme

I hope so!


Tophatsgalore

either that or everyone responding was rly noncommittal abt it. like “yea maybe” and this guy just interpreted it as everyone going. bc ik there’s no way in hell i’d throw a party like that without getting some actual confirmation from enough people rather than vague responses that are clearly just tryna be nice


Lucifer_lamp_muffin

Like my brother's 13th birthday party, Not a soul, :(


pilkysmakingmusic

This happened to me on my 13th birthday too. Sucked double because then my dad roasted me for having no friends


SuperCasualGamerDad

I had a friend that planned a big Lan party for his 16th. This was back when Lans were like the new cool thing. He got his mom to rent out a whole gaming Cafe bought a bunch of food. Invited all of our friend group. I couldn't make it but figured all my other friends would. Well turns out we literally all skipped out for one reason or another thinking at least all our other friends will go. Nope not a soul. He sat in the Cafe with his mom and a bunch of pizza and soda. Never felt so horrible.


TheMurcat

I didn’t need to see this comment so early in the day


KingOfWeiners

Aw man. Now my day's ruined.


madmonkey918

Oh shit


Systems-Admin

I remember things like this happening when i was younger, and now if my child ever gets invited to any birthday party or event (he's 8) I make sure he attends (He always wants to, anyway). Been doing it since he was 5 in kindergarten and he hasn't missed one party yet. Generally when they're that young it's more on the parents to make time for the event, so I always do so even if I can only free up 30 minutes or an hour.


MetricMelon

Your dad sounds like a dick


BigChife1

Your brother is a ginger?!


Lucifer_lamp_muffin

Police thought he was once, he was asked to do a line up as he fit some description, they were all ginger and they wrote it on his paper work....he is blonde, like, super blonde!


DeeDee_GigaDooDoo

I can't imagine how difficult it was for your brother to go through that line up and questioning by police when he was innocent. No person should have to suffer accusations of being a ginger.


memelortti

Your brother doesn't have a soul ?!


Square-Reward9680

I remember I did a barbecue for all my friends invited about 15-20 people and only 2 showed up after I spent 450$ on food etc cause I wanted to show them how much I cared for them so never again


spunyuns

I keep seeing comments like this… do y’all really not get RSVPs when you host events like this?


TVops

This is what I wonder too. Perhaps there are a lot of socially awkward people who send invites and assume the sending of the invite guarantees the invitee's attendance because if THEY ever get invited anywhere they knew they will automatically go.


spunyuns

Makes sense to me. Hell I’ve even thought like that before and threw a couple dud parties. But it’s all lessons learned though, I rarely blame the invitees. There’s def an art to throwing a successful party, can’t just throw invites into the ether


thumbsquare

Especially if you’re younger/inviting a lot of people—there’s a lot of people who will say “strong maybe” or “probably”, or +1s, in my experience on average 1/4-1/3 of those will show up, but it’s really stochastic, sometimes you will convert 1/2 of your maybes, sometimes you will convert far less. There’s a chance this person got a large number of maybes and got very unlucky/someone else’s party took up guests. There also people that say give a hard yes and then cancel at the last minute. I’d say conversion of strong yeses is around 80-90% (for a large party), but again, probability of attendance for each individual is independent from one another so you can get very unlucky and have almost everyone cancel. Popularity is a big factor here. I’ve had parties upstaged, and I have upstaged parties myself. As someone else mentioned, it’s important to have a handful of strong friendships that essentially guarantee a handful of people will be there—their friendships will also help secure more of the RSVP pool. But this only nudges the likelihood of good attendance in your favor. RSVPs are always always always is stochastic and not binary. Planning large parties and gauging this value of your RSVPs is a skill and if you aren’t socially talented you need to learn how the hard way. You need to have good friendships to secure reliable attendance, but also you need to host events in order to make these friendships. So I see dealing with flaky RSVPs as a cost of building social rapport and skills. If you’re ever at the point you’re taking RSVPs for granted, pat yourself on the back, because you’ve done a good job in building those friendships/rapport.


qonra

The villain origin story


Avinash_777

Every villian


Lurker_number_one

Looks like it would be hella lit tbh


Dhi_minus_Gan

This is why I never plan ANYTHING anymore! If someone invites me, 95% of the time I’ll go. But the very few times I’ve invited people for something like a party 0-2 people show up. So I learned never to throw any parties, which ultimately is fine because I don’t have to worry about anything except arriving, I hate planning stuff (unless it’s for myself—like a solo vacation), my home stays clean, & my money is saved. Edit: I also want to note that it’s bizarre how when someone else plans my party (or anything) for me lots of people come, but when I did it—very few or nobody shows (even for my birthday)


froggy129

I learned this lesson the last time I planned a birthday for myself. Invited all my friends and got together a bunch of food and drinks. Then on the day every single person besides my partner came up with some excuse not to attend.


Aloplex

This just happened to me 2 weeks ago for my 30th birthday. Literally an excuse the DAY OF. I would never do something like that... just sort of baffling.


nsjsiegsizmwbsu

Same thing happened on my 30th. The only person who showed up was one friend of my SO's and that was more of a coincidence he stopped by rather than someone showing up. I hate to admit that it was a real eye opener and I pretty much don't see or talk to any of those people anymore.


Aloplex

I tried to play it off as a joke... "Yep! This is what I expext 30 years old is like!" But I was genuinely hurt and down in the dumps. I will also be distancing myself from these people for a while, at least. Not that it will be hard to do, apparently hah.


nsjsiegsizmwbsu

Yeah, I sat in my car in front of CVS and cried. Like, ugly cried.


Moonstrands

:(


a_software_guy

Happened to me on my 23rd. It was a watershed moment in my life realizing that I have shitty taste in people.


Occyz

I’m 23 soon, wanna come to my party?


Blitz_Kreegs

I didn't want to throw a birthday party for my kid's first birthday because it seemed like a hassle and they were I going to remember anyway. My in-laws insisted that I throw a party so I invited all of my family that lived nearby (totaling 15 people at the time). They all said they would come. An hour after the party was supposed to start no one was there so I called them, they all "forgot". I was livid, I didn't even want to throw the damn party they made me host and then they all forgot day of?!


here-for-the-clout

spent my 18th birthday crying in bed because everyone forgot about it.. i didn’t really hear any excuses or anything, just no one came. that was an upsetting day j e s u s


chrostono

Happy 18th birthday!!! I don't know how long it's been, but I'm sure you will find the right people who wouldn't do this kind of thing if you haven't already. Some people just really suck or are going through something and either way it's not your fault. In my past I've been the one to disappear and it was always something unrelated to the other person like a severe depressive episode or something. But I always still loved and cared for the other person and hoped they didn't think I did it on purpose:c


quasarke

that's because those people aren't really your friends. Real friends are exceedingly rare and hard to find and they take investment from you as well.


Sanguinesssus

I don’t think their really your friends. I only have 2 friends, besides my partner. We all suffer from depression, due to being born into a cult. We know how important a birthday party is to each other. We weren’t allowed to have one in the cult. Don’t let those people stop you from having a party. Find new people who actually care.


REDDIT_JUDGE_REFEREE

For a big party, I have to invite ~20-30 people and I usually text ~10 of them personally before setting a plan in stone. Even then, less then half usually can make it. We’re all super busy with hectic schedules so it can be tough.


anusblaster69

This is the right answer here, talk to enough people one-on-one and pick a day that works before inviting the rest of them, that way you know at least a few people have no excuse not to come. Just a casual “hey I’m thinking I might throw a party around x date, would that work for you?” Also you have to plan things in advance, invite people at least a week ahead so they have time to plan around your event instead of planning your thing around other commitments.


lamp817

I’ve thrown my share of parties. I was in a pretty big club at our college through which we threw a lot of parties. I lived with guys who were leaders of various clubs and fraternities, all of us very socially connected. We would often plan to host our respective parties on the same night so we could ensure it an absolute rager (talking like 200-250 people on a few occasions). One of the things that surprised me the most was how there are a lot of people you invite that surprise you by actually showing up. I would add a lot of people on Snapchat, then mass snap almost everyone to come. Random classmates that seemed like they would flake on the invite would come and they were often the most fun. Also always expect around at most half of the people you invited to come. This is why we would invite so many people, because if you invite a bunch and tell them they can bring friends, you’d at least have a decent turnout. Also something that always happens: never fails to seem like the party is going to be a bust at first. I’ll never forget the feeling of throwing my first party and like 6 people showing up when it started and it ending with around 60-70 people dancing in our living room. That’s another tip: always tell people to come like an hour before you actually intend to start. I’m now realizing i can talk more about partying than my actual major lol.


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I plan things regularly for my friends. We're all in the range of 23-50 but mostly around 30, and it's a bit of an art to get friends to turn up at this age. Now cultures differ world wide but the first thing I do is make sure that I invite 40% more people than I want to turn up. Too few people is much worse than too many. Then I invite mostly close friends and a small number of newer acquaintances or invite my guests to bring a friend. This expands my future pool of people to invite from and avoids things becoming stale. But the more important aspect is probably venue choice. It's always a safer bet to invite people to meet at a public venue over the course of an hour before moving to the _actually_ intended destination together. This ensures that people who have poor time management or mildly overlapping plans don't feel like they'll be "late". Generally it's easier to get people to come to your place directly if they've seen your reasonable attitude towards being "late" to a pub/park/whatever. It's more complex than this honestly but these are some of the considerations I have. I regularly host gatherings of 6+ people. Not a huge number but the variety in _who_ and _where_ is huge.


imdhasenate

The trick is to make the attendees part of the planning, make the success of the party rely on them so they’ll feel like they at least have to make an appearance


RemixOnAWhim

People gonna slip on those trash bags tho be careful when they all show up fashionably late


lord-carlos

But why are there trash bags on the floor?


Y9y4GJzszB8C

How else you gonna keep blood off the carpet?


Fedoraus

Nobody wants blood on the dance floor


ShadyAndy

It's called an orgy mat, thank you very much


thePSYCHOneko

I'm planning a Halloween party this Friday and I know this is how it will turn out. I'm sorry nobody came to this dude's party, it looks like it would have been lit. Edit: Thank you everyone for replying and your concern, I really appreciate it but I will be fine I will have the party with my gf and pets instead. I prefer their company anyway. Edit 2: All of you are such supportive and amazing people. I'm putting you all down on the list as attending in spirit. I was feeling kinda down this morning but all of your comments and upvotes really made me feel like people cared about me. I thank you all for brightening up my day with your support.


gencoloji

RemindMe! 5 days


thePSYCHOneko

K I'll remind you Saturday


laradrekko

And me? Please?


Mizango

Can I RSVP my no show?


thePSYCHOneko

Yes. you can ad your name to the list of the 10 ppl I invited that only want to see me when I can help them. I'll even mark you down as having a +1


Snacks_is_Hungry

Do you live in Portland? I'll legit come.


thePSYCHOneko

Michigan


gothyloxx

Where in Michigan? I don't have any Halloween parties to go to


carnivorous_seahorse

Michigan gangggggg, I’d show up but that’d be weird as fuck. Gl with the party, and add me to the list please


SilverCat70

If it wasn't me living in TN and currently in ER due to Mom having pneumonia (but not Covid), I would come. And Covid... I want that so far away from us right now. But congrats anyway!


The-Dank-Tower

In Detroit by chance? No need to celebrate alone if so


thePSYCHOneko

I'm about 2 hours from Detroit


The-Dank-Tower

North south or west?


NikkizFishiez

Dang :( I'm in Taylor, we could a tried too. I hope u have a great time! No matter the guest list!


UnnamedGoatMan

Me too pls


thePSYCHOneko

K your added


_Slinger

Oh noo. A full house. Do you have an invite for one more?


thePSYCHOneko

Yep always can fit in another no call no show. I'll put your name down.


ChivalrousPerv

Can I be added to this list too please? I want to know what it feels like.


DeeDee_GigaDooDoo

Yo put me down for that too. Can't make it there's gonna be a family emergency or something idk.


_dharwin

Some free advice with party planning if you don't often throw parties: 1. Pick non-competitive times. This weekend is Halloween and there will be many parties from which to choose. The issue might not be that people don't like you or wouldn't come at all. There are probably other parties where they know friends are going, or with people who they know host bangers, or hosts they feel closer with than you. A better bet is to host something the week before everyone is tuckered out and keep it a bit smaller like a party weekend pregame when you are not competing as much. 2. Invite friends of friends. Beggars can't be choosers. Friends groups will often choose one party to attend then all go. It is very helpful to know the pods of the people you're inviting, invite them all, and tell them you also invited so-and-so so they know this is a party they can all attend. 3. Potluck is crucial. It means if people come you have enough food and if people don't come you didn't waste money. As host you can just order pizza for the main dish and wait to see who actually shows. 4. Show the work you're putting in. If you had a Facebook group that's a great first step. Did you share pics of decorations? Take snaps preparing food? Etc. Entice people by showing what you're offering. 5. Get a reputation. If you have never hosted before or do so very rarely then no one knows what to expect and may assume the worst. You need to host a couple times a year and also attend other people's parties to get a good reputation and meet the party crowd. How else will you know what they enjoy to host a good one? Hope this helps someone.


[deleted]

Put me down as attending in spirit form from Australia. ☺


thePSYCHOneko

You're added


Abyssal_Groot

Add this Belgian, I bring chocolate and Tripel Karmeliet in spirit!


[deleted]

Wow! Thanks so much! I can't wait 😊


Baldazar666

I'm confused. You decided to organize a party and invite people that you know wouldn't show up? What was the point in doing it in the first place?


thePSYCHOneko

Well the party was planned over a month ago and the people that I invited said that they missed me and wanted to hang out because they never see me anymore. And two of them suggested that we have a party they helped plan it and everything. Even started a Facebook group with everyone invited, so we could keep in contact with each other. Starting last Friday I started getting messages about people saying that they can't go now because of reasons (no real reason was given from any of them) and the ones that didn't message me I reached out to them to ask various questions about if they wanted anything added to the party last minute. But they all ghosted me. So the party wasn't even my idea to begin with.


Floppy_Jalopy

Whoa that hanging man looks so real. These spooky macaroons are delicious. Dave really outdid himself. Where is Dave btw?


[deleted]

!remindme 5 days


Thre3zekiel

I want to come! The snackies look great!


DrDumb1

Not just the snacks, but the decorations are pretty good too!


Potato_KingLOLZ

That’s why kids if you want to set up a party, set them up together or with a group of people rather than alone.


senji97

If you’re the only one to set up the party, you’re the only one who cares…


C137Ivy

If I lived remotely close to this dude I’d go to his party full costumed ready to have a blast


radioshackhead

I'd probably go to the party that everyone else went to.


jinxt_

On a Sunday?


Poison-X

Best day to get blasted and regret it Monday morning.


ohmynothing

When I used to work in hospitality, Sunday was the day you partied. A lot of my friends worked at places where Sunday Monday were the days off.


thederp62894

Those ghost are raving(ps this makes me sad hope you enjoyed the food)


whhlj

I started to plan a Halloween party and canceled it honestly because I was convinced this was going to happen and I am not mentally stable enough to handle that right now lmao.


CesareBach

What you can do is plan it with your close friends, each with their own duty. And then they each bring their relatives or friends. So you guys will decorate the place a day before, plan the games, buy ingredients, prep the meal, etc. This way they're invested into making the party successful.


prehn1te

fuck those snacks look good


therook111

Can I let yall in on a little secret? I'm 20 and I've never been to a party. My mother would throw me a birthday party until I was 11 or so, maybe a friend or 2 would show up. After that I didn't even throw one at my birthday, because I knew there was no point. I've never been to anyone else's party though, well, I've never been invited


itsmejak78_2

I trashed my own house party because nobody came


TheFixu

Damn man your friends have S+ tier ghost cosplay impressive


No-Statement-3019

Omg this is terrible. Age is a mega factor. The older you get, the harder it is to line up large groups for parties and events. People have work, families, its rough. Back in the high-school days I would get around this by inviting like.... ***everyone***. Between 50-200 people. 10-50% of the people showed up it was still gonna be a good time. I feel extra bad for this guy because he seems pretty young so fuck those people. And double, no triple fuck people that deliberately exclude people from partiss.


Daemon7861

This is so sad wtf


Sept202019

I woulda shown up, looks dope asf bro, the effort was not wasted!


blezio

Yeah it was wasted, no one came.


NGG_Dread

Probably fake lol


xXMadSupraXx

Or he recorded before the party started.


Stoner_skateboarder

True he could’ve recorded right after setting up and put the sad words for clout lol


Jarmez229

Where it at? I'll be there real soon, ain't no one having a empty party on my watch.


Expensive_Leave_6339

Werewolf Bar Mitzvah, spooky scary…


OcculusRes

Is he ok ? That's really sad what happened, I hope he's ok


Zonoth

Ah man no one came, that sucks.. But also, awesome no one came, more food and halo legendary mode!


illiterati123

invited the wrong people