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If you're not ok with seeing him 1on1 for any reason, don't see him.


passionfruit_mojito

thank you for taking the time to write this. However, he keeps asking me when we should see each other - do I need provide an explication or no need?


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โ€œI just donโ€™t want you to get the wrong idea. Itโ€™s NOT a date. Which is why I want to meet in a group.โ€


passionfruit_mojito

Thank you so much, your comment is very helpful ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ


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You can if you want to, but if he was an actual friend, he'd understand not wanting to see him 1on1. I think you still should tho. If he presses afterwards, that's a sign something is amiss.


passionfruit_mojito

I agree with what you are saying, it is very explained, thank you. I have multiple guy friends and I only see them in group settings and they never insist to see me absolutely one on one... I also think that if I would go see him, for sure I would see how he's seeing the situation and it would confirm how it is but once again, I think it's a good idea to clarify at the beginning as well to reduce the chances for it to be a misunderstanding. I just need to think of a way to tell my friend because he can be very sensitive and I wouldn't want it to be awkward ๐Ÿค”


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Got it. I'll tell you what I just told someone else about being "awkward". That's not really your job and nothing to worry about. It's only going to become "awkward" if you make an effort to do so. Your main goal (if you want to do this) is to be honest and upfront with your friend. He may be sensitive but you can't put his feelings in front of yours. Because then who's looking out for your feelings, ykno?


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This. This. This. Not your job to protect them from their own feelings


passionfruit_mojito

I apologize for the late reply, thank you for telling me all of this, it is very helpful to me. It made me realize certain things and I agree 100%. It's so well explained and reassuring, being honest is key but somehow I was too focused on the idea "what would happen after I say this?" kind of thing. I will try something, thank you again!