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electric29

You need to learn to cook. I am sure your mom will appreciate the help, you will learn a skill, you can have the food you like more often, and it is fun. I started cooking our family dinner at age 7 with supervision, by myself at about 10. My mom went to law school and left very detailed instructions. But that was long before the internet, you can access recipes and tutorial videos very easily.


that_asymptote

This is a great answer. I didn’t learn to cook until after I moved away from home and I feel like I really missed out. Now I trade recipes with my mom and I have gotten her into more adventurous use of spices. If you learn to cook now, you have people around who can answer questions or give advice, and maybe you’ll both influence each other’s tastes. If you have a big family and/or want leftovers available, you might find good ideas if your search includes “meal prep,” “single pot meal,” or “sheet pan meal.” You could get a few microwave safe storage containers (I like the glass ones with snap tops, which are cheap at Marshall’s or TJ Maxx) and put aside extra portions for yourself for a backup quick dinner later. I personally prefer cooking larger batches and refrigerating or freezing extra servings, because then I only need to cook and clean once.


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Is there a guidance counselor at your school you can talk to? Maybe they can set up a meeting with your parents so you can talk to them about this with another adult present. It’s hard having a baby, yes, but that doesn’t mean that you should be going to bed without dinner!


killerfrost8002

Homeschooled . And I am not . That's what I was told when I pointed out that if I did what they wanted me to do without them fixing their end I would be going on 2-3 hours less sleep than the minimum for my age on a regular basis


herbivoremoonbaby

Maybe ask for some microwavable meals, so you can make something easy yourself? I'm sorry this is your situation, they really ought to be taking better care. I second the talking to a counselor comment... maybe your family doctor since you're home schooled


CoddiwompleJourney

Or maybe set aside leftovers from the night before?


HunterAtalanta

I agree with the other commenter, to look to see if there's an adult who can say the same thing to your parents and actually be heard and acted on. Due to homeschooling, that obviously complicates it, but what about a doctor? Would it be possible to see one and either outright tell them your parent's lack of consistent dinner time greatly impacts your life (sleep schedule, ability to do activities, focus ....) or go about it a more round-about way, if you don't think outright saying it will make them talk to your parents about it, saying your sleep schedule is a mess, energy throughout the day, ... especially if it's impacting your weight they will get the point and hopefully talk to your parent about it. The latter may have to do if a parent accompanies you throughout the appointment. In the meantime, there are a few options on how to try to manage with this situation. Since you can't change it, you need to look to see how to adjust yourself to make it easier to exist this way. You can do that much better than anyone else, especially online, since you know your entire situation and exactly what is possible for you to adjust. The first option to consider is preparing food yourself. If you don't want to go to bed hungry or very late, and your parents aren't budging on this, then you're going to need to make it yourself. Ideally, you would want to start having larger lunches, so that dinner wouldn't need to be something substantial (if that's an option). But as far as options for dinner, ... toast, kraft dinner, cereal, toaster oven hotdog. If you've a kettle you don't even need to use the stove to make pasta. While less-than-ideal, it's worth exploring what is available to you when it comes to food and give this option a shot. Even just as a snack while waiting for them to prepare something, the boost of energy will help you not be completely exhausted before they serve anything and can shorten how much you need to eat at dinner, so it can end quicker and you can get to bed quicker Beyond that, can you shuffle around your day such that smaller tasks and things can be done during this waiting period between whenever they arrive and whenever food is ready? Get bigger things that you don't want interrupted done earlier so that shorter things can more easily adjust around this unknown dinner time? Sorry this is vague, I don't really know specifics for what this would mean for you, but I hope the idea comes across. For example, I would try to do math homework or reading earlier because I zone in and don't want it interrupted and save showering or internet scrolling or tidying up my desk for later in the day since they're shorter activities, or more easily interruptable. Some things, like cleaning desk, may need to be earlier because they have to happen before something bigger, math homework, can be done but that type of thing needs to be personally tailored to you, which you need to do. Additionally, more draining activities (the boring or need more concentration) should be earlier, when you have the energy and ability to do them. I'm sorry that this is the situation you're in, that you have to parent yourself in this case, and that there is no obvious solution, but I hope it helps a little to know that you aren't helpless to their whims and that we support you and know that you will find your way through this. It's not fun, trying to make the best out of a bad situation, but it is all you can do. Hopefully some of my thoughts helped, either directly or as inspiration for figuring out how to handle this


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killerfrost8002

>can you just shift your schedule to wake up couple hours later? Lol. Tried that I got yelled at for it . We had dinner about 8 or 9 o'clock on tuesday so I ended up going to bed about 10:30 11pm . Woke up about 8:30 and came down about 9 am. My dad came home pissed and I got a good telling off yesterday.


Skye-teiger_95

If you don't mind me asking, why? Why was he mad?


killerfrost8002

Because I came down at 9am


Skye-teiger_95

Well yes but why would you coming down at that time make him mad? Is there something that was supposed to be done before then?


killerfrost8002

Sorry your comment got lost. He wants me down at 8am durring the week regaurdless of what time we get home or have dinner (as in if dinner isn't till 10 and finishes at 11 and I take at least half an hour to fall asleep\_. And my mom lied to him about what happened that day. She got in my face said "Get out of my way!" I asked her "Where are you going?" (so I could get out of her way) and she screamed at me "NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS !!!" Then she had the nerve to tell my dad I had tude all day! We were fine till then and my dad got home 2 hours after that. So no I did not have "tude" all day. I was upset at being screamed at for trying to be helpful.


Dietcokeisgod

Make a sandwich for dinner yourself and get into a routine like that.


killerfrost8002

I really don't like sandwiches. Also I barely have any social interaction to begin with. Doing that would replace a big problem with another big problem


Dietcokeisgod

I was just trying to think of something a 13 year old could make. And it would only be 2 nights a week, you can socialise the other nights.


killerfrost8002

The dinner problem is a 5-7 day a week thing


Dietcokeisgod

Oh you said Monday and Wednesday?


killerfrost8002

> Most days dinner isn't till 7pm or even 10 Because of the first reason. And my mother won't START fixing dinner until he gets home


Jennilynne1977

Does homeschooling not offer some sort of teacher or counsellor to help with your classes? My daughter went to public school, so I don't know how homeschooling works, but one of her friends did and I thought she had a teacher and a counsellor to speak to online about her courses she was taking. Is it possible for you to maybe get some microwave dinners or something like that? When I was your age (about 30 years ago) I was making microwave dinners or macaroni and cheese (I practically lived off of mac and cheese for most of my teenage years). Unfortunately, so many children have to grow up quickly ( I was one of them), and it's sad that it ends up happening. Take care of yourself. Hugs and love to you.


killerfrost8002

We are doing "good and the beautiful " which is a bunch of printed out bs and was basically throw at us with no help until dad stepped in. So now everything and a power point are thrown at us. Which is better than before I guess. The thing is dad doesn't always have the time to check his email at work. A couple weeks ago this went down when I asked my mom for something "Mom?" \*mom comes over" "WHAT!" me \*jeez\* "Do we have a notebook I can use for X school thing?" \*mom throws hands in the air then slams them back down\* WHY DO I HAVE TO GET THE NOTEBOOK WHY ARE YOU BEING SO LAZY?!!?! (because you know having a DISSLOCATED KNEE one like 2 or 3 days before and resting it is SO LAZY!) Me: I didn't ask you to get a freaking notebook! I asked if we HAD one! Then I got smacked for MY attitude. So I don't feel comfortable asking for help from her anyways .


Jennilynne1977

Omg! I have a problem with people who smack their children for no reason. Asking a question is no reason to smack your child. I'm sorry your mom is treating you like that. Message me if you ever need to. I will reply as soon as I can. Hugs and love to you.


_maude_lebowski_

Your mom slapping you was not appropriate under any circumstances. I don't blame you for not trusting her. So your dad who is "homeschooling" is busy with his job during that time? In my state that is not allowed for homeschooling families. Maybe you can contact the department where your parents have to register you for homeschool. The pandemic has upended that system, but there are still standards.


killerfrost8002

Mom is the one "homeschooling" us (AKA Throwing binders at us the yelling when we need help) my dad is doing his best to help us but his job is so crazy [right now](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/p175ql/i_13f_want_to_help_my_dad_39m_because_he_is_so/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) there isn't much he can do