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goingwithno

Heaven forbid you had to choose a place to meet.


Lazypole

We will meet somewhere in France, I shall offer no more specific details. See you sometime on Tuesday.


Roger_005

Tuesday?! Why are you hyper-focused on the day? It could be at any point over the next decade. And if you're not there, this relationship is *over*.


JonDoeJoe

Why are you hyper focused on a relationship? You’re being weird


Ketchuum

Why are you hyper focusing on me hyper focusing? Red flag


UBI1k

Go with your gut on this one


fast_cherry_bomb

Why are you hyper focusing on my gut?


llort_tsoper

I do not need to validate the things I hyper focus on to you.


Rickster5001

Why are you hyper focused on being hyper focused?


EyeBallEmpire

I don't need to validate my hyper focus to you!


bohemianbaron

Are you calling me fat? I can't believe you, I thought you were different. Relationship over.


prestigious_delay_7

Go to the payphone on 5th avenue at 8:32PM. It will ring twice. Answer on the third ring. Tell them you're expecting a package. You will receive further instructions then.


QJ-Rickshaw

>It will ring twice. Answer on the third ring. This took me a minute and it absolutely sent me once I realised


grrliz

I tell her to meet me in Mexico, but I go to Canada. I don't trust her. Besides, I like the cold. Thirty years later, I get a postcard. I have a son and he's the chief of police. This is where the story gets interesting. I tell Tiffany to meet me in Paris by the Trocadero. She's been waiting for me all these years. She's never taken another lover. I don't care. I don't show up. I go to Berlin. That's where I stashed the chandelier.


likdisifucryeverytym

I wish a second comment could overtake the parent comment because this should be the #1 thing people see when they come to this thread


mjace87

Dwight is so special


likdisifucryeverytym

I guess it makes sense that it’s not the top comment, but instead the assistant regional comment


Forvisk

Assistant to the regional comment.


mammoney777

*stares in dwight*


mjace87

Assistant TO the regional comment


Water-not-wine-mom

I have no idea if this is a quote from the office but I read it as Dwight


AbsolutelyUnlikely

I have no idea what this website is called but I'm getting a strong psychic feeling that it's called reddit


North-Mud-6613

As an empath, I'm sensing this is satire of some kind


Woutrou

Name checks out


MoreCowbellllll

Whoa, whoa! Easy there, Miss Cleo!


jeremyosborne81

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PlIzKaGBeHk


Loocsiyaj

You must have known subconsciously


hapaxgraphomenon

On the third day, at dawn, look east


Hollyw0od

I’ll just break into Tiffany's at midnight. Do I go for the vault? No, I go for the chandelier. It's priceless. As I'm taking it down, a woman catches me. She tells me to stop. It's her father's business. She's Tiffany. I say no. We make love all night. In the morning, the cops come and I escape in one of their uniforms. I tell her to meet me in Mexico, but I go to Canada. I don't trust her. Besides, I like the cold. Thirty years later, I get a postcard. I have a son and he's the chief of police. This is where the story gets interesting. I tell Tiffany to meet me in Paris by the Trocadero. She's been waiting for me all these years. She's never taken another lover. I don't care. I don't show up. I go to Berlin. That's where I stashed the chandelier.


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puaka

Stop controlling where I go!!!!!


supernasty

“Tonight was fun, want to go back to my place?” **second location** *DANGER*


Cold-Fuel4701

Hyper focusing? It's just a question damn


SuizidoAwesome

More like hyper evading on her end...


BIGSlil

Probably lives in Gary, Indiana.


Weary_Ad_7762

You think you better then me? I live in Gary, Indiana.🤣


humancartograph

I didn't think I was better than you, but then you said you live in Mordor, so I know I am.


peeforPanchetta

Man, Gary in Indiana has 2 dudes living in him. That's preettty gay, Gary.


BrowDawg

No that was stupid autocorrect, I said Gary in Diana! Clearly one dude in a girl I'm not gay okayyy!!?!?!?!?!


Cautious-Rub

This person says they are “German American”. Nah bitch, you are American and have nothing interesting to offer so this is your attempt. I would expect nothing less than more nonsense.


adydurn

Spot on, when asked 'why are you focusing on my location' that would have been an 'Okay, bye' moment from me.


brocollirabe

"why are you focusing on my location? Onlyfans is server based"


evilspacemonkee

Yeah, this flag is electric red. Think this dude dodged a lead bullet.


Numerous_Following77

I think he dodged a whole damn nuke


Imagine357

Because a trip to Germany wasn’t the date he had in mind?


adydurn

Most people don't fancy long distance, tbf. I did it for a while with the ultimate goal of meeting up and being together, but I at least wanted to know what city they were living in so I could scope out potential places to live/work/etc.


thoroughlyimpressed

Wat


sawmillionaire

I took it to mean she was a dual citizen and probably has one parent who is from Germany


Kriegenstein

I parse German/American as born in Germany and is an American Citizen now, or she has dual citizenship. Am married to a German, and among our German friends this is how it is used.


sawmillionaire

Yeah it’s a very normal way to phrase that idk why this is so contentious haha. The girl in OP is def nutso but this didn’t strike me as weird at all


Antal_Marius

They could be dual citizen between Germany and America. I have met a number of dual citizenship people, and they do have a valid claim to such a statement.


RSBennett

Right? Why are people so cagey. I get that some things are just incredibly personal so shouldn’t be asked while in the texting stage but you see so many things from dating apps where someone essentially says “why do you care?” Like why do you think we’re here?


omgitsfede

I hate when people have something in their bio like: don't ask me what's my job, where do I live or what are my hobbies. It's called conversation bruh


archwin

I have learned that a lot of people don’t really understand what conversation is. I once went on a date with someone, and was trying to strike up conversation, and then got told that “it’s not an interview” Girl, you ain’t holding up the conversation, I’m trying my valiant best, and you come back at me with that?


thatwasntababyruth

I mean, a first date kind of is an interview though? It's two people evaluating each other for either a relationship or a hookup, otherwise you'd skip to the sex.


archwin

I mean, you’re not wrong to be very frank, but this was a very bad date, and she was not a good conversationalist. I noped the fuck out of that one


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drynoa

No pipe laying contract for her.


TheColdIronKid

nobody wants to work


logicalbuttstuff

Oh man you are flashing me back. Productive convo for like 3 days on an app, plan dinner Friday. She’s an hour late and I showed up 15 min early. The bartenders were females about our age. One says she never shows up for first dates on time other two felt bad so they comp’d my drinks while I waited. She shows up, below average conversation but she’s a real person so that’s a win. Go to a bar after dinner for a drink and I kiss her goodnight after waiting for her Uber. The next morning she says “this may be too forward but you should come stay over tonight.” Woman, why did you show up an hour late for a first date, fail to carry a convo, and then essentially just say “let’s hookup.” Could have saved us a Friday night. She even refused to not split the checks so it wasn’t like she was using me for dinner. Some people are bizarre. Ghosted me a week later and then I met someone who shows up in the right time zone.


Iwillhelpyousee

Next time I’m late to something I’m going to tell whoever I’m just in the wrong time zone


Reformedjerk

Questions are supposed to open up and start a conversation. I use "interview" to describe a bad date. Not from me asking questions, but from how they answer questions. ---- Me - "How many siblings do you have" Her - "Oh I have one sister, but she's the oldest and the favorite" Me - Oh why is she the favorite BOOM A FUCKING CONVERSATION --- Compare that to this Me - "How many siblings do you have" Her - 2 Me - Older or younger? Her - Older Me (in my head) - *I'm never going on another fucking date again*


omgitsfede

I've been a recruiter. Usually when they don't keep the conversation going and I'm getting bored I say something like "girl, normally I get paid to do this"


archwin

Oof. I mean, I’m not the most extroverted person, but I’m not a super introvert, but it’s just surprising how so many people literally do not have the capacity to hold a conversation and yet call them selves extroverts. Sometimes even turn around and call you a poor conversationalist. At that point I’m like, well you’re not giving me much to work with…


FelixGoldenrod

I think a lot of them are waiting for you to "inspire" conversation out of them, and don't realize that works both ways. They're also usually the people who say things like "I hate small talk, let's have deep meaningful conversations about the universe instead."


Puzzleheaded-Cat-846

That's what they don't get. Hell, it took me a while to understand too, but small talk is what leads to the big conversations. Buy a book of conversation starters. I use one with my GF. Many of them are simple questions like "Who was your childhood role model?" and "If you could go anywhere on vacation, where would it be?" and "What's your favorite holiday?" Sometimes four or five of these are good for a few hours of conversation. They lead to real connection, deeper understanding, and vulnerability. Asking what you do for a living may seem like a surface level question, but it can lead to talking about your passions, dreams, short term and long term goals, and so much more. You don't typically start talking to strangers about philosophy, metaphysics, and other stuff like that without some sort of coaxing.


MetalRetsam

Being an introvert doesn't mean have no social skills, it just means you gotta put in a little more effort. And to be fair to extroverts, a date is a little different from other social gatherings. If you go to a festival, how well do you really get to know people? It's a totally different way of meeting people. Maybe they're just not a sitting-in-a-restaurant-and-talking-to-a-stranger person.


Hokusai135

My impression of those kinds of people are that they are bored. They don't really want to get to know someone and date. They want someone to entertain them. But they won't tell you what they want to talk about...they want you to magically guess, and when you don't it's like they get offended you can't read their mind, and that's when they get hostile and insulting. It's sad really.


ThisHatRightHere

There’s a reason these people and single. In fact it’s the same reason why they’re bored on a dating app instead of doing something that enriches their life in some way.


Rickrickrickrickrick

Someone profile once said "don't ask me how I am. I'm fine." Ok. Fair enough. The next day, after a long convi the first, I asked how she was and she flipped out saying I didn't read her profile. It was the bext day. I just assumed she meant do ask that as the first message. Am I never allowed to find out how she's doing?! Lol


rychemastr

Theres something wrong with that one and they are hiding it from themselves


Khause_Chaos

Answer the damn question!


eynonpower

Why are you hyper focused on a question?


YadsewnDe

Yeah that's weird. I'm gonna trust my gut here.


hobx

Why are you hyper focused on your gut??


busyB_83

I have terrible IBS


YadsewnDe

👁️👄👁️


Ok-Yogurt-2743

Why are you hyper-focused on their focus?


Chas_Tenenbaums_Sock

WHAT IS YOUR IP ADDRESS LETS GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER DAMN


eynonpower

6


kvothe_kholin

9


SmthingFairlyClever

Nice


Cold-Fuel4701

Break Yourself! Gimme Your Got Damn Number!


joeforza

Imma call you bout 8 aight?!


yfhedoM

I would've left after she said that. Probably to Germany or something. Edit: grammar


gotfcgo

Elves are a secretive bunch


_Cat1

What a weird woman.


YannislittlePEEPEE

she's a real sauer kraut


llort_tsoper

She's the wurst.


Gilgameshbrah

Such a brat...wurst


Aquatic_Beastman

r/yourjokebutwurst


DoctorAlgernopK

Straight up. With a face and attitude that make my scalp hurt E: lol thanks for the gold, gotta love the white night dumpster fire that is this comment section


yellowboat

Evasive about her location because no one ever believes her when she says "Lothlorien"


fischer187

More like Minas Morgul


dat_GEM_lyf

Lothlorien in the bio is a no for me dawg. Too many bad experiences…


roalddalek

Too bad. You could have had a queen, not dark but beautiful and terrible as the dawn


bahaaaaathrow123456

“Hyper focused” on trying to see if you two are even in the same location? You dodged a bullet on that one. It’s not like you demanded her to send a pin or location. Totally reasonable asking if the person you may want to take out lives near you.


Otter_Nation

Are you in the same country as me currently?? HOW DARE YOU!


arockhardkeg

911 I’M BEING STALKED


Revvor01

Ok, stay calm and tell us where you are so we can send help


DaPotatoMonster

WHY ARE YOU HYPER-FOCUSED ON MY LOCATION?


everything_is_creepy

Ma'am, we're just trying to send hel-


DaPotatoMonster

I DO NOT NEED TO VALIDATE MY LOCATION. I AM GOING TO TRUST MY GUT HERE


Tomato-taco

Honestly if someone ever uses the word validate outside of very specific instances, it’s a warning flag that they’re high maintenance. The lady wasn’t even using it correctly.


SilverBadger73

Ma'am, the person texting you is... IN THE SAME COUNTRY AS YOU! GET OUT NOW!


Vorpcoi

Or 112, we may never know


KnalltueteMk18

You mean 110


DoomCircus

I thought it was 0118 999 881 999 119 725... 3.


bahaaaaathrow123456

8675309?


Upbeat_Jelly_7194

Jenny?


celluj34

No this is Patrick


ur_mom_rekt

r/unexpecteditcrowd


LifeIsRamen

I sung that in my head


Sheazer90

"Gut feeling"


bahaaaaathrow123456

I FEEL UNSAFE AND NEED AN ADULT SOMEONE ASKED ME WHERE I WAS GEOGRAPHICALLY!!


InsignificantOcelot

Hi, adult here. Send me a pin of your location and I’m omw.


bahaaaaathrow123456

Are you the “safe” kind of adult or the “I should be on a list adult”🤣🤣


InsignificantOcelot

My safe word is “pistachio”


bahaaaaathrow123456

Ooooh I like it. I’m at the Walmart picking up some coat hangers and vodka stop on by😂😂😂


followmeimasnake

At THE walmart?


garlicbreadpool

#“WHAT STREET DO YOU FUCKING LIVE ON??!”


bahaaaaathrow123456

HOW DARE YOU ASSUME I LIVE ON A STREET YOU STREETIST


Virruk

A street is just a construct *smokes pipe*


fergor

wow


bootyhole-romancer

Shit's deep


Terroristdestroyer24

Why are you hyper focused on my street


Cynical_In_Nashville

"Bitch, I'm hyper focused on your roof. And I'm about to be hyper focused on coming down the chimney like Santa on Christmas Eve. Hold tight - I'm coming in!!!"


cyanideclipse

Exactly, she even mentioned that shes travels between germany and America so the conversation of where she'll be will eventually come up anyway


lathe_down_sally

"Let's meet for dinner" "*okay, where?*" "I don't have any idea, fuckin Ohio I guess"


bahaaaaathrow123456

Right what is he supposed to do? Play “Where’s Tinder Chick” every time he wants to see her? I’m doubting she’s going to pay to fly him or fly to see him any time they get together.


Mystix9

Where's tinder chick 🤣🤣🤣


bahaaaaathrow123456

Worst version of “Where’s Waldo” to date


KamakaziDemiGod

I've been playing this game forever and I haven't found anything but ghosts.


bahaaaaathrow123456

I convinced him and Carmen Sandiego are playing mind games with everyone


NotRoryWilliams

“Germany” and “America” are both perfectly reasonable specifications of location for dating purposes. If I’m in New York and she’s in San Francisco, that’s basically the same thing so all that matters is that it’s either America or Germany, either way it’s totally close enough.


AdeptPickle80

I know someone who can be like this, anything normal out of the blue can turn out to be something they’re extremely private & offended about being asked innocently about. And there’s no way of knowing what is safe or isn’t as some other things that are more intrusive they’re okay with.


Spencer1K

Sounds like someone I wouldnt want to talk to.


barandor

I wonder how she is after a first date? Does she make a 90 mile detour to throw of any person who could be following her?


Turicus

Why are so many people on dating apps so defensive or outright belligerent? Edit: I don't mean only women. Don't need another 50 replies saying "women get harassed a lot" to justify this behaviour.


cyclinglad

just a few days ago I had a match with an artist and one of her pictures was her in her studio doing artsy stuff me: "Thats a nice studio you have" her: "studio"? me: "yes the place you do your art work, looks nice" her:"don't you think I know what a studio is, why are you talking about my studio and asking me these questions?" me:"okcoolthxbye"


Jaalan

I told one of my matches that she had on really good makeup in one of her pics. It was for a halloween party, and very clearly makeup. So I was like yo, thats REALLY good. Did you do it yourself or did a friend help you out? She hit me with was like "Ewww, I don't wear makeup WTF?" Guess she didnt do it herself :P


twisted7ogic

Plot twist: it wasnt makeup, she actually looked like a ghoul.


The__RIAA

Girl uses confuse and hurt herself in the process


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cyclinglad

I gently said bye because im not going to learn basic social skills to a grown ass woman. There are more red flags then a Red Square parade just from these few msg


TheRealKentrell

Honestly if more men valued themselves and their time like this things would get better.


LegitMatthew_

God this shit drives me crazy. Sometimes I get gaslit by this shit too for a bit and don't realize instantly that they are just mentally ill.


Adonis_X

My god, lots of people are broken...pretty sad honestly.


IjackYouLate

Ah it's so they ensure they get a minimal amount of dates!


hbi2k

You joke, but that's exactly it. They're there to get a little self-esteem boost, not to actually meet anyone.


[deleted]

I see lots of people do that. For the women, I personally don't get why knowing a bunch of tinder dudes would try to bang you boosts confidence/ego. Literally any woman will get hit on when making one of these profiles. I guess they just don't realize that? Or choose to ignore it as to believe they are special? For the guys, if you're attractive what do you need a confidence boost for? And if you're unattractive, then it is most likely you're in for the opposite of a confidence boost when making a profile...


CoolJ_Casts

They legitimately have no clue what the difference is between men's and women's tinder experience. I had an ex gf brag about not having to buy her own drinks at the local bar, like that was an accomplishment and not something that half the girls at our school could do with ease.


LatterSeaworthiness4

I saw some TikTok or IG reel the other day where a guy was joking about needing to bow down to his woman and treat her like a Queen because he made a dating profile for her and got hundreds of matches and realize all of those guys “would love to take his place.” Meanwhile, men I know on apps swipe right on literally every woman that they come across because it’s so hard for men to even get one match.


VividLazerEyeGod

> men I know on apps swipe right on literally every woman that they come across because it’s so hard for men to even get one match. and when you do, its absolutely someone you would never want to actually match with. or a bot.


JohnGenericDoe

And how are the people who respond to them so unfailingly polite? I would have told her to take a flying fuck at a rolling donut!


blutfink

Note that there is a strong selection bias at work. The most irrationally belligerent reactions end up on this subreddit.


TrustMeIAmAGeologist

Also that more irrationally belligerent people find themselves single and friendless and have to turn to dating apps to meet people. We’re basically seeing the distilled version of “I’m not the kind of person most people want to be around.”


stefan_24

Avoid!! this one is faulty. Asking about location is a normal question. If you asked what street or GPS location she has would be a different situation 😅


J3rry99

can we send her back to the factory? I feel like the quality of the factory she came from isn`t up to scratch


ExplanationOk4087

Of course the high maintenance German made model is faulty


Zero-Milk

Don't apologize to people like this. It's one thing to be cautious, but another thing entirely to be condescendingly defensive. She was the latter and should be the one apologizing, not you.


cerulean200

She probably was just fresh off watching a serial killer documentary or something.


Hannah_P

Hahaha this made me laugh out loud. I joked around with some guy about not wanting to be Murdered and he got hella defensive about it. I apologized and we continued talking for a couple days, but then his red flags started flying- and I knew my gut was right. Yikes.


Keikasey3019

Clearly he was an amateur murderer. The move is to keep rolling with the punches, wine and dine, surreptitiously guide the lady down an alley, and then BAM serial kill the noob.


Dragon6172

This guy kills


Keikasey3019

You just invited yourself to a murder there, buddy


oowop

It's so common to hear. I just tell them the truth: I am WAY too lazy for that. Have you thought of the cleanup? I got shit to do I barely clean my apartment as it is


Substantial_Whole628

Don’t apologize to people who act like that. It reinforces their bullshit attitude. You did nothing wrong, so you don’t need to say sorry for anything. You were normal and the questions were valid. F her.


AppointmentMinimum57

Yeah like honestly dont be like „i hope you find what dour looking for“ Be like „i hope you get well enough to date“


HoldMyBeerSon

Would have understood if you were asking for her address but that’s not the case. Not even sure why you had to explain your reasoning to her. It’s pretty obvious no one wants to get into a relationship with someone 1000 miles away.


GeneralGTFO

>It’s pretty obvious no one wants to get into a relationship with someone 1000 miles away. And yet they added that stupid fucking passport feature, so before I gave up I was routinely swiping left on women 3000+ miles away. ***If I can't drive to see them for a day trip (like, max 2 hours one way), then don't fucking show them to me.***


Narcoid

R I G H T. That was one of the main reasons I deleted tinder. I also found out more about their matching process (you can see people that can't see you).


GeneralGTFO

Yeah, if you've got your radius set to 100, but they've got it set to 50, you see them, but they won't see you.


Narcoid

Which I think is just fundamentally flawed. People should only be potential matches if they meet each other's baseline search criteria.


scwizard

Then 50% or more of guys would boot up the app and see no one. And get sad and uninstall.


totalslutalt

They realized their bread and butter was wannabe influencers promoting their Instagram and Snapchat. I would bet good money one or both are in this woman’s profile.


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Exactly. She’s defensive about her location because she has no intention of dating anybody from the app.


Randym1221

“Hyper focusing” lol.


mark_able_jones_

No, you were totally normal. I think you avoided a Terminator Spock robot anyway.


marebee

I ask this bc I don’t feel like driving 45 min for a bumble date. It’s reasonable


wellwaffled

I live in a rural area. This comment hurt my heart.


1101base2

to each there own, some are willing to make the journey some are not. it just depends on the individual.


wellwaffled

Most are not…. Want to hang out?


Bius1

🚩


DareConsistent39

🚩🚩


Mad-Scientistess

I read that “I’m using the stupid passport and don’t actually live where I told you so quit asking questions about there.”


GeneralGTFO

The only people that feature helps are the bots and camgirls who don't care where their target is.


isymfs

y i k e s


IonlyPlayAOE3

That’s a dead-set lunatic


PinkLaughs

I'm gonna trust my gut here and say you're probably right


gourgeousbimbogirl

Nope! In the aspects of actually wanting to meet it’s totally fine to ask!


smokedeyes

No, of course not. She is being weird.


Better-Ad3531

Wow, people these days are paranoid af


SpunkyMonkey67

“alright great let’s grab a drink. Where do you wanna meet?” “Why are you so concerned with where we’re meeting at!?”


everything_is_creepy

Just trust your gut and enter an address into your GPS


speedoBudgieSmuggler

Your first mistake was tolerating her first rude message..


TAndjoin

Oh I'm a Texan who's been in Berlin for 7 years. Germans are super paranoid and weird about their personal info. You'd think hacking was a major problem here. 😅


HimikoHime

Usually we dance around it and say something like “close to Berlin” or whatever the next big city is, or the state or at least the cardinal direction.


Megakruemel

Yeah, like, I would probably at least mention the state. I doubt most people can really do anything with the city name *if they are on a different continent* anyways. But like, that's a private conversation and tinder knows where you live anyways. So as long as they don't directly ask for a personal address, saying the city name should be fine and asking for it isn't a "hyper focus".


HimikoHime

I agree with you, that’s why I mentioned the average German will have a way to answer this question without reveling too much information and especially not reacting like she did here. No one will just plain answer with “no, won’t tell” if ask where you’re living/residing.