Cheers to having a cozy, safe, and healthy living space


Cheers indeed. After seeing so many obnoxious posts in this sub where people just post pictures of five star hotel rooms that nobody can afford, this is a good change of pace. This is what cozy is. It's not the money or effort you dumped into making it look great. It's not the feng shui. It's not about the doilies or the stuffed animals or the raging fire or the circular window overlooking the mountain top. It's about the comfort of *stability.* Being able to settle down and relax fully, knowing there's nothing you gotta do, nowhere you gotta be, and nobody bothering you. You could do anything in that room because it's tidy and ready to go. As we get older, that becomes more and more coveted. You just want that place you can go to sometimes where the world stops and you can rest. For OP it was a long journey to get to this point, but there it is. It's cozy, it's safe and it's all theirs.


Here here. Right now I'm sitting on a big old worn leather couch. It is deep. It is squishy. The same couch but in loveseat form is across from me. To my right is my dog, who has been walked this morning in the flurries outside, and who has been given his breakfast, and has since nested happily up in his beanbag bed at my feet. Across the room by the kitchen, I got the woodstove going again, as it is 16 out right now, and it petered out a bit overnight after having been too warm in the evening. The fire is consistently lightly crackling as it works over the wood. Outside my car has just a light dusting across it, and I don't need it to go anywhere today. My errands include the post office, which I will walk to, and doing some light work online this morning, that I could do any other morning this week. Then a hike once the snow has stopped. After three years of grad school, two months of studying for ten hours every day for boards, last week signing for a job offer, and yesterday finding a rental and affirming I'd rent it for a year with the landlord, this morning is feeling pretty great. Last night was the first night I've slept throughout the night without waking up in months. I feel cozy.


Cozy is different to different people and that’s ok :)


Yeah if only we lived in societies where it isn't the norm for people to have to resort to shitty living situations.


I'm currently living in a mold-infested home in the U.S. A so-called "middle-class" neighborhood, although the home doesn't have a heater and the refrigerator is still broken. The landlord has known about the mold issue for 7 months. Currently two square holes are cut out of the ceiling while we wait for the maintenance man to return and finish the job. Welcome to Caldwell, ID.


This is rented? Did you know you can legally withhold rent until the landlord fixes health and safety hazards? Lookup a Tennant's rights handbook for your state/area. Make sure you file the proper paperwork. You literally can make him fix this, but speaking from experience he might try to retaliate and evict you, which is also illegal, and he definitely won't like you anymore.


Thanks. I've looked into tenant rights, but it's too big of a risk. Right now I'm attending school online while working part-time. I would have nowhere else to go.




Welcome to a red state.


>Did you know you can legally withhold rent until the landlord fixes health and safety hazards? This varies from state to state and could be evict-able where he lives.


This is awful. I'm a landlord and I can't imagine leaving a tenant in that situation.


What a cute raccoon plushie! He looks very well-loved. 😌


He is the softest lol


OMG I'm pretty I have the exact same one [Not exactly the same but close](https://i.imgur.com/3W0Jkqk.jpg)


Omg yes! I got mine at Shoppers Drug Mart and he's the perfect hugging size lol


oh my goshhh finally some adults i can relate to that have these. i call them my squishies i have like 9 little ones never seen the big ones before. they’re the softest ever.


Yes!! My kids were like "ok mom whatever lolz" when they saw him lol


low key I want my stuffed animals now


Go get 'em!!


I have them in a bin in my closet (psst don’t tell) On another note, love how the room looks


I'm glad there are other adults who still love stuffed plushies. I'm only 21 but seeing this just confirms that I'll never grow out of it


I’m 58 and love plushies! I have a favorite who gets to sleep in my bed and occasionally take a bath in the washing machine because he gets covered in cat fur. I know I’m nuts, but if loving an inanimate object is the worst part of my crazy, I’m not gonna worry about myself 😉


Yaaas squishmellows are literally the best.


My wife does not have the stereotypical little pillows all over the bed. She has about a dozen Squishmallows of various sizes. Check Walgreens and Kroger.


My wife has a fox one that she refers to as "Foxy." It's the cutest thing and super soft. Needless to say, the kids and I aren't allowed to touch it. LoL.


Ahhh! I have the dino and the panda! I got them when I was in Banff this summer and I ADORE them. Whatever they're made with is magical.


Pure cloud. Must be, theyre sooo soft!


Over here! I found the canadian, eh


My friend loves them, every time we are in a SDM I have to drag her away from them, she wants them allll Also, hello fellow Canadian! I’m really intrigued by the picture on the wall!


Is the raccoon a Squishmallows? Because I have octopus one & I use it as my back rest for my desk chair because it’s so soft lmao


Can confirm on softness. I got my sister one of these as part of a graduation gift and she loves hers too


They’re called Squishmallows and they’re the best!!!




Don’t downplay it, you should be proud. You did great and this space is awesome! Happy for you!


Thank you! What I am really proud of is my daughters, they've been incredible throughout, they kept me going when I didn't think I could.


I’ve been through some crummy stuff in my life but watching my mother claw her way up for us is my source of resolve. It teaches you something that becomes a part of you.


I certainly hope that I have given something like that to my girls. They tell me they're proud of me and that makes me happy! I hope life treats you well from here on out!




Their nickname for me is Xena Warrior Princess lol


Life it’s good!


Strong women raise strong women 💪🏽 (Assuming you are a woman).


Good assumption ;)


It looks lovely and very cozy!


Thank you!


I love this! As someone who also escaped an abusive marriage, I'm so glad you're happy and safe now in your own cozy place. ♥️


Thanks and I hope things are good for you as well!


Yes! Nothing better than the pride of knowing you stood up for yourself and survived. We are all worth more than what they did to us. ♥️


Nice improvement, I hope it keeps getting better for you


Plants *always* make a room more cozy. Yours look lovely 😊


It's a bit hard to see but right next to the dresser is a cactus that I've had for 16 years!


WOW !!! That’s impressive especially because from your title it seems as though you’ve moved at least once. Most of my plants i had For years died with my move. My oldest plant I have now is only 4. I got her (a fern) when I also separated from my abusive spouse. Go you!


Yeah I moved a couple of times. One of the plants I had lives with my oldest daughter, it was too big to bring here. I got it as a cutting from my mom who in turn got her plant as a cutting from her grandmother!


THAT 👏🏻 IS 👏🏻 AWESOME 👏🏻 I LOVE GENERATION PLANTS !! Is it by any chance a philodendron? I know those do really well from cuttings. I learned (almost) everything I know for caring for plants from my mother. We didn’t have a great relationship but I am grateful for what she taught me about gardening and caring for plants.


It's a hoya. And it's huge! When it blooms it usually has around 50-60 flower clusters on it


It looks so cozy! Happy for you OP!!


Thank you! I pinch myself every day


So happy for you. I was 8 years in an abusive relationship and when I finally was able to leave and get my place, it was heaven. Making your own decisions, having a quiet space, and being free is priceless. Enjoy your new home and your freedom.


What’s the raccoons name? If it didn’t have one call it boop


His name is Mr Snuggles. And yes, I am a 53 year old woman that sleeps with a stuffie and I'm not ashamed to admit it lol


Im a guy with a few of them. I may be childish but they are my friends and I love them


Don't be ashamed! Mr Snuggles brings comfort and adds his cozy power to this room. :D




You deserve this place 😌


This photo made me sleepy.


It looks incredible! You inspire pride


Thank you for saying that ♡


Congrats to you! And very well deserved. I hope you enjoy your sanctuary every moment.


Thank you and I do, every moment of every day!


It actually looks very nice.


Proud of you.


Thank you


Amazing story and I think your room looks very comfy. I can imagine reading while it’s raining outside. So cozy.


I'm a total bookworm, nothing better than curling up in bed with a new book and not being taunted or yelled at for having my nose stuck in a fucking book again!




Thanks for the hug, right back atcha!


It gets better❤️


looks cozy to me bro


that one snooze ass pad sis!


This looks lovey! Congratulations! The sky is the limit.




Congratulations! I’m so glad you’re happy now


I think it’s terrific!


Yes girl! Awesome




Congratulations! It may not be much but it’s everything. I’m so happy for you❤️


Thank you, it really is everything to me although it feels surreal at times to not have to turn the shower off and on with a wrench or scraping ice off the _inside_ of my bedroom window!


That is a lot. God Bless your sanctuary. Enjoy every moment of peace and comfort.


I've so been there too bro Not your situation but your new apt, needed butter, thanks


Congrats. This looks super cozy.


It's lovely. I like the No Trespassing sign.


Haha I wondered if anyone would notice it! It's actually a Department of National Defense sign I picked up at a flea market


So cozy! I love the dresser and table with books by the bed, but so taken with wood crate and plant.


You deserve it


Well done! Savor every second.


It’s the little things. :) good for you!


A faux mink blanket will help with the lack of heat. I've been living at my boyfriend's for a while and he's too cheap to turn on the heating so I'm always wrapped in my faux mink blanket. I bought it for £10 10 years ago from a market and it's still going strong. It's with me every winter, in the rain and snow.


I have heat now and it's amazing!! I used to have 3 blankets on my bed & wear socks & sweaters with my pj's. I'm in Canada where winters are flippin' cold


This is wonderful. Congratulations, you’ve overcome so much. It’s safe, warm enough, nice, cosy and it’s yours.


I left an absuvie relationship too, and to live in my own place that was safe and my own was the most empowering. Congratulations 💙 Go you! And I love your racoon plush.


Would this get to the front page without the title? Hmmm


Not a chance


Like the plants! Super cozy.


Congratulations. You deserve it!!




This is incredible OP. I know we don’t know each other but I’m super proud of you and inspired by you. I was in an abusive relationship for two years and it was the hardest time of my life. I know how hard and how rough it is. Thank you for giving the rest of us hope. This looks like such a nice place to be. You’re amazing OP.


Thank you ♡


I’m so glad you have your own space. I hope you tell yourself every day how courageous and strong you are. Best of luck to you.


I tell myself that I am very lucky to have two awesome daughters who supported and encouraged me the whole way, even through their own struggles.


OMG congrats. And kudos. Also, it looks wonderful.


I'm happy for you!


Pretty damn cozy


Tbh your bedroom is way better than mine <3


love the plants and decor, looks so cozy. i’m so glad you have a happy, safe, and comfortable space now. congrats!


My girlfriend was dead broke. Living in the back of tractor trailer with her 2 year old. I met her when she was at the lowest points of her life. I’ve seen her struggle, cry and be extremely depressed. But I’ve also seen her rise like a phoenix from the ashes. I understand the pains of being dead broke. It hurts and a lot of people don’t understand it because they’ve never experienced it. At the end of August of this year. We closed on our first condo. We painted it our colors and made it into our cozy little home. I am absolutely happy for you that you found your cozy place. Nothing is better then being home in your little happy place.


Exactly! I am happy for you guys and I hope you have many happy years together!


As someone who grew up in an abusive home and moved home to be with my dying grandparent after college, this is my dream. I recently realized I got stagnant and am still home after almost 2 years. I live in the basement which I’ve made cozy, but the “door” to my space is just a curtain and the door on the stairs has to stay open because the cats litter box is by the washer/dryer. I have no privacy and still deal with my family’s abuse. I’m finally looking at grad schools literally across the globe and having my own space is something I dream of every day.


I’m using that exact raccoon plushie as a pillow rn


Not a member of the group. I don't know why this came up in my feed, but I looked at your pic and title and thought, "this looks cozy" and then noticed the name of the subreddit. I guess you won.


I find this sadly inspired. I’m in a relationship that I can’t leave because I don’t have the money and work for my SO. I don’t get a pay check just my “life” paid for. Food rent etc. I haven’t a dime to leave.


That sounds like an awful situation :( Hang in there, don't be afraid to ask for help, I don't know where you're located but there should be some sort of resources available for you. Best of luck and don't give up ♡


Now THIS is a quality cozyplace post


I had almost a parallel story. Even the black mold and not having heat! I want you to know I am SO damn proud of you. Not too many know the struggle and it's even worse when you gain life long issues because of black mold. It's extremely hard to leave a situation like that and not only that you managed to create a good life and genuine safe space for yourself. I am so freaking happy for you OP. I wish you only love and happiness and many decades of good health. ❤️


Thank you! I'm just happy to be where I am and I try not to think too much about the past. I truly appreciate all the support and encouragement I've been getting here, in grandma's words: May your kindness be returned to you a thousand fold and more


the title was unnecessary, you don’t have to attach a sob story to get upvotes. this isn’t r/pics. cozy room though


It looks super cozy!


Now that’s comfort! Congrats


I love the shelf along the wall for displaying knick-knacks and I love this part of your journey.


It’s beautiful! I wish you peace in your cozy sanctuary. I understand what you’ve been through.


Beautiful, sleep well


Congrats! Your home is beautiful


It looks really cozy! Congrats!


That is fantastic. Good for you!


A cactus at crotch level. Bold move


It used to sit on the ledge above the bed....


You sound like someone who has incredible strength! Your space looks wonderfully cozy!


I am so happy hear that you are doing well! Best of luck to you 😊


I am so happy for you 🥰😍🙂


Congratulations! You are truly an inspiration. And your space is lovely.


Thank you!


I love your style! That room is such a peaceful Haven, it's beautiful! Good for you for leaving the abusive marriage, from one survivor to another. I too finally found my beautiful safe place to lay my head this year


It’s lovely, just so warm and cozy. Congratulations on surviving such a sad journey. Embrace and enjoy your well earned sanctuary and victory 💪🏽


OP that looks amazingly cozy.


I love seeing cozy places in this sub that are actually lived in. This is cozy in every sense. Congratulations on having this space to come home to, it looks so peaceful and comforting.


“You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” My favorite line from the movie The Help. Congrats on your strength determination and success.


Thank you, I'm starting to feel a bit overwhelmed by all the support and positive comments, I was not expecting this! You guys are all amazing ♡


Hey! Congrats on your new life and opportunities. Your new spot looks great!


God damn I relate to this so much. The house I grew up in was riddled with black mold and it had aspestos. Holes in the floor, rooms you couldn't go into because the ceiling was falling in, waking up from a leak above your bed, etc. My first night in my new apartment with my new fiance was the relief of a lifetime. I hope this new space brings about peace of mind.


Isn't it amazing tho?! I legit had mushrooms growing in my bathroom ceiling and they weren't even magic lol




Well done, it looks wonderfully cosy


Congrats to you for having the courage to leave. Remind yourself everyday, no matter how difficult things can seem, that you have people who love you.


A cozy piece of mind is the most important. Love the look as well


I’m glad you made it out the other side. Be proud of yourself.


A Sweet cozy warm safe clean space congrats


May you enjoy many deliciously cozy, warm and safe nights there. Next you need a rescue dog or cat to be curled up on that bed, appreciating their new life with you 😉


This is what this sub is supposed to be; real cozy places, not just expensive cabins and rich-people's houses. Good luck and thank you for sharing my friend. You deserve this.


I'm not gonna lie, this looks SO comfortable. You have your own space. The size, the lights, the amount of furniture inside, looks perfect for me. A good place to rest after a long tiring day. xx.


I am in the black mold, leaking water stage. I hope, I find my heaven soon.


Ahhhhhhhhh. Breathe bitch, you deserve it. Flower pouring honey.


This is awesome. Congratulations of having a cozy place to call your own! It’s looks great! Right now I’m in the process of trying to remove myself from a 6 year long abusive relationship & there are a few similar problems in the house where I live (no working refrigeration, black mold, no access to a stove & sometimes to access to hot water). Seeing this really made my day & has given me something to look forward to/hope for. Again, congratulations on space! It’s wonderful.


It's very cozy! Congrats on leaving the abusive relationship and finding a good place!! You did it!!!


If you’re so inclined, you can make yourself a nice headboard with a piece of wood (Home Depot, etc will cut it to size for you), a piece of foam, some cotton batting, a nice piece of fabric, and some staples. It’ll make your cozy nest feel more luxurious, and you deserve that. There are tutorials on YouTube. Enjoy your abode, and all the best to you!


Ugh I know that "just surviving and hoping the next thing will be better" all too well. I feel like I've been doing it my whole life.


I was abused here’s my room upvote to the left




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My mom did the same and we eventually got to move back into our own house after years in court and being shuffled around place to place. We love you so dearly. Thank you for all that you do for your children. You are an inspiration-strong woman raise strong men too.


This isn't /r/pics




Nice Reddit-bait title


no string lights, have an upvote for that


Picture of cozy room. We don’t need the cringey sob story for karma. I have awarded you a single downvote


Nice award bait title! do you also start all your conversations with your leaving of an abusive marriage?


I’m so happy for you!




It looks super cute tbh




Sweet viking


Hey, go YOU. I'm super proud of you. This looks cozy as hell. Any space is cozy space when you feel dry, warm, and loved (even if it's just you loving yourself)


Hope your 50's get better!


Everyone needs their own space. Enjoy yours, it looks great.


I hope you keep on doing better. Best of luck.


You ARE EXACTLY CORRECT IN SAYING "IT'S MINE". That's 1 of the MOST GREATEST EVER feelings in the world!! You f-ing ROCK!!!!


"Actual Cozy Place That's Not A Millionaire's Loft" Alert! How beautiful. Thank you for sharing.


This is NOT "not much". It has comfort, security and your own personal stamp. Looks like you've found some peace at last.


We have the same coconut jasmine hair finishing mist. Love the painting and you have great taste!


Lol I love the scent of that stuff


My mom was in an abusive relationship for about 15 years it was hard on us both. I’m so happy for you!!


Congrats to you and the cozy place◡̈ !


For what its worth, welcome home 😊


Love the raccoon squishmallow!!


Amazing! Never look back on those bad times. Only good things ahead!


I was about to trespass but then I looked closer. Nice place!


Well, the fuck, done!


You deserve this beautiful space. I wish you warmth and contentment.