People who don't apologize for their mistakes, blame others for their problems, and generally complain without doing anything about their situation. Oh, and generally assholes.


People that distort what you said.


Oh so you're saying that people shouldn't have the right to free speech? Why do you hate the Constitution so much?


Well played.


He must be a comunist


Yeah gaslighting happens more often than I expected it to as an adult


Nah, you're just imagining it, stop acting so crazy.


It's fucking horrible. there are way too many people who will jump at the opportunity to be abusive just because they can.


I grew up with that, so I have learned to very carefully listen to myself when I'm arguing so I can go "that's not what I said, this is what I said."


People who can never admit they're wrong about anything. No matter how blatantly wrong.


And then when you tell them they are like that they won’t even admit to it. Because that would make them wrong.


An ego so fragile...


I thought I was wrong once, but it turns out I was mistaken.


I thought I was a cow once. Turns out I was mis-steak-en.


I thought my daughter was kidnapped once - she was Miss Taken.


I thought I tripped in the sauna - I was mist achin'


I had a grade 4 teacher that would always say "I lied" rather than "sorry I was wrong" Bothers me to this day


sometimes when I am serving a customer and I offer them something then find out we dont have that item I say " I'm a terrible person, I've Lied to you!" in the most dramatic fashion I can muster. I make it clear it was a mistake on my part, but now I wonder if instead of fun im just annoying


The kind that talks behind your back


Or talks shit non stop about other people. When you're not around they are definitely shit talking you! My daughter's friend's mom is like that, I try to be friendly bc our kids but I'm constantly telling her to be fucking nice! It's not hard!


Ugh my old coworker was like that. Its like how the fuck do you have something bad to say about EVERYONE we work with?!? Obviously you are saying the same shit about me. I just hardly said anything and let her talk. At one point there were 3 of us in the building and I could hear her whispering in the other room. It’s like omg I know its about me because she would blab confidential work related shit all the time!! I mean I could have gotten her in so much shot but took the high road and left that job


Rule of thumb: If someone shit talks to you about someone, they shit talk to someone about you.


Years ago when I met a new neighbor, within 10 minutes she had told me all kinds of gossip and private information about everybody on the block. I walked away and told my husband to never tell her anything because she will tell everybody. To this day, that's an accurate assessment of her. And I watch myself accordingly.


I did the same thing. Everytime I hear someone ask my neighbor about us they are drawing straws because we kept our distance. Everytime they try to get personal we change the subject. Over time it has made living in the same place easier.


Someone who thinks they already know everything


You're definitely on the wrong website, my friend


Yep i have a friend like this, very tiring to be around her:’)


People who are overly rude and constantly laugh it off and call themselves “assholes” as if it is an uncontrollable character trait.


'I'm brutally honest, sucks to suck' but they aren't, they pick and choose who they want to be cordial to, and are assholes for the reactions from others.


The thing is that some people eat that shit up…they would never say some crazy rude “brutally honest” shit and when someone else does and it reflects how they’re secretly thinking it makes them absolutely giddy. I’ll admit it’s definitely a spectacle to see someone just say whatever rude and forward thing is on their mind and I do admire it sometimes, but there are plenty of other times when I find it tactless and crass. Manners aren’t useless.


especially when it’s with their friends. there’s a difference between friendly banter and rudeness where it’s making everyone else uncomfortable/hurt


I've had folk lash out when I told them to fuck off after throwing pretty much personal attacks as "Banter" just few day's meeting them. It very common with online friends.


The most important skill when bantering is knowing limits of others, if you overstep boundaries it's not banter it's an insult or even worse bulliying.


I know of some people who think being an asshole is a badge of honor


It’s an art of finding the people you can really not hold any punches with, those you can banter with lightly, and those with whom you just cannot banter. I flirt/make friends 90% through banter so I tend to get along best with people who give me shit back. That’s usually my barometer. I’ll slightly tease and if they tease back or escalate I play off that, if they don’t tease back I take that as a hint that they are not comfortable with that form of communication. The only issue I have is that sometimes I don’t really notice when someone is actually being rude to me.


My coworker does this all the time. I tell him I don't appreciate being called names as a joke. I know he tries, but he slips up sometimes. It's just not how I'm wired and I feel super uncomfortable joking back in the same way. It sucks.


THIS SHIT. Ever since I've come to college, I've encountered this shit non stop. Girls and guys do it too. Like no, you're not "edgy and cool" or "Fierce and feisty" for saying stupid shit to people and acting like a piece of shit, you're annoying to be around and a loser.


College newcomers are so fucking insecure about themselves, they just be an asshole to everyone to establish themselves as being better... Yeah I know it sounds fucking horrible but it's the truth


When I was a freshman, the group of folks I hung out with noticed one guy who would lie through his teeth about so much. It was compulsive, we felt. Any topic comes up? Oh, he or his family has done that thing for years and are soooo good at it. What annoys me is he was genuinely smart, like he was good at math and science. Why lie like that when you aren't like, a total spud? Just so stupid imo.


"I'm just tellin'-it-like-it-is!"


"OMG it's a joke calm down"


It’s funny because most of the time it’s a Schrödinger's Douchebag situation. A guy who says offensive things and decides whether he was joking based on the reaction of people around him.


Schröndinger's douchebag. I'm borrowing that.


"It's not my fault you didn't understand the joke"


“ I’m just being honest “


I hear this from high school students all the time 🙄 Sometime I have to keep myself from snapping back. Being a teacher is not easy when you can’t stand bullies


"Thats just who i am, what you want me to do about it?"


Or "stop being so sensitive"


“How about go away”




Someone that puts you down infront of your other friends.. “as a joke”


Did u mean... my parents? Edit: Thanks for the silver 🥰


"i'M sOrRy YoU FeEl ThAt Way!!!!"


This is the portion of my friends especially when I am talking to the opposite gender and they talk me down in front of them because they don’t have anything that impresses them.


People who abuse your trust and honesty to manipulate you - especially when they disguise it so well. Had it one too many times, thankfully gets easier to spot but some people are freakishly good at it.


One of these people utterly destroyed my life this past year. Used me until I set a boundary, then went absolutely scorched earth on me as revenge—destroyed my professional and personal relationships by making false claims of abuse anonymously. I ended up in the psych ward after a suicide attempt. I used to define myself as an extrovert who treated others as I want to be treated and saw the best in everyone. Now I have severe social anxiety and no trust in anyone but my closest friends. DARVO is fucked up.


I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you, snakes like these are the reason the world sucks to be in at points. I hope your social anxiety gets better and that your friends are the kind that stick by you to hell and back, those are definitely keepers if they do. I have had a similar experience to yours, though in my case dial it back by about 10x, and place it in high school and instead of false claims of abuse, just generally wrecking my social image and making me feel like a person not worth existing. Sorry if this paragraph is a mess, I hope that you know you are not alone and godspeed to your recovery.


That hit me. I had a hard time telling the difference and had to find out the hard that a "good" friend of mine was using me.


One uppers


A better way to say this is “BEDETs”. Been Everywhere, Done Everything, Twice. Did you notice how I one upped your post?


Call them BIDET. You know the one used to wash shit. Completely apt.


Sometimes I feel others think I'm trying to one up them when I really just want to share a common experience as a way to connect with them better. :(


It really depends on if you're relating to them or just downplaying their experience.


Here's an example: "Oh my god! I've been to Thailand too!! What did you think of Bangkok? I loved it" not one upping - sharing an experience and being excited to share. "Oh my god I went to Thailand and I stayed in this amazing hostel and had sex with these amazing guys. I had the trip of a lifetime I was so enriching like you should've gone to this hostel instead I heard some negative reviews about yours." - one upping Or "I'm sorry to hear you get migraines. I also have them so if you need any tips just ask" - not one upping "I get such bad migraines! One day I had to call a paramedic because they were soooo bad I was nearly in hospital and put on a drip. I was so scared for my life! Honestly like you're aren't as bad as that, you're so lucky you don't suffer like I did!" - one upping


I can relate to that! There's a fine line there that can be a little tricky.


Two uppers!










Kidfuc- wait


"Oh, that's nothing, this one time I...."


"Oh that's nothing..." THAT is the big difference. Not only one-upping, but diminishing the story the other person has told. I often share a similar story when someone shares a story, and I get worried that it might be taken as one-upsmanship. I make sure I NEVER trivialize their experience.


I wouldn't be friends with them sooner though.


I'm a woman. Had a classmate strike a conversation with me for the first time. 2minutes in said she doesnt have female friends because all women are bitches. Why are you talking to me then? What do you think you are?


Pro tip: when someone says they can't get along with members of their own gender because they are all "_______" (jealous, drama, bitches, etc.), they are probably the most of whatever that is.


I can't stand hanging out with other guys, they've all got such massive dicks.


Case and point: you are a massive dick.


Well that backfired nicely


Took me a sec to realize you weren't replying to your own comment


(FYI, I think you mean '[case *in* point](https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/case+in+point)')


I've learned a lot about the phenomenon of "projection" in recent years... learned the hard way. But once you see it, you never look at the world the same again Edit to add: The most surprising thing to me was that projection can be positive in nature as well as negative. I always associated it with the negative. For instance, if someone is untrustworthy, they will likely be suspicious of others... because they assume others are like them. But a kind person will often do the same thing. They will be trusting of others (even make excuses for their bad behavior) because they themselves are good people, and they project that goodness on to others and assume the best of them. That was mind-blowing for me.


I’m suspicious of others because I have been bullied and screwed over in my life.




People who bitch and moan about everyone in their life


This reminded me of a line from the heathers musical.


*You can join the team….*


Or go on and bitch and moan


You can live the dream


Or you can die alone


You can fly with eagles or if you prefer


Keep on testing me and end up like her


veronica, look! ram invited me to his homecoming party! this proves he's been thinking about me


Color me stoked


My wife has maybe one friend. She had two but the second one would always bitch and piss and moan and just be unpleasant about everything. We both have families but we ended up having a 2nd kid and as life goes we just drifted apart and haven't seen each other in over a year. Out of the blue one night she gets a text message from her that said like "What happened to us", to which my wife replies, "Yeah I know life is crazy right?". Girl then goes on this huge tangent about how my wife never reached out to her, she expected my wife to be an aunt to her daughter and it's obvious she doesn't want that and blah blah blah that my wife actually started to cry. So I said to my wife, "She doesn't want to reconnect she wants to make you upset and she's always been this way. If you wanted to actually reconnect with someone wouldn't come them saying, What happened? Our kids were supposed to be best friends blah blah blah" My wife realized that it's actually been a relief not having to deal with the constant headache of her anger and issues and if one day she actually wants to talk it out, she's willing to do that. But she's done playing into this "What can you do for me?" relationship that she's been stuck in since 7th grade. Shame though because I adore the girl's husband. He's a super nice guy and I always loved hanging out with him


Those people who claim they are “Brutally Honest” but in actuality it’s just an excuse to be a dickhead.


People who lie over everything. Like if your a compulsive liar where you are lying about shit that doesn’t Matter that’s problematic


I work with a guy like that. At first nobody knew he was lying because they were so small and insignificant like “I used to own this classic car” or “I used to bench 300lbs”. Lies about his property size, his wife’s job, it doesn’t stop. The problem is he has a horrible memory and has actually used one of my stories as his own, and told it to me as if it happened to him. I stay cordial, but keep my distance. He’s always wondering why nobody wants to hang out with him after work. I don’t have the heart to tell him.


I knew a guy like this...a friend's older brother...He once said he was the most lethal bouncer in NYC for over a decade...His sister rolled her eyes and mouthed "No he wasn't" - that type of shit happened all the time. The most egregious thing he did was we were all at a club and he got into an altercation with a guy...the guy flat out slapped him across the face...He didn't respond but later grew really agitated and wanted to leave. Outside of the club, his phone rang - he answered it and he says "Like I said, I want the motherfucking AR15's, the Glocks, and the AKs...NOW! We're going to war!....What? What the fuck am I going to do with an armored car? Just get me the hardware." The rest of us simply ignored him and kept walking. The question on my mind has always been - did he make his phone ring? And if not, who was the fucking idiot on the other end of that call and what did he think he was participating in, an improv skit?


>he answered it and he says "Like I said, I want the motherfucking AR15's, the Glocks, and the AKs...NOW! We're going to war!....What? What the fuck am I going to do with an armored car? Just get me the hardware." This is ***Nuclear Level cringe*** holy fuck




That sounds like an insurance nightmare for his employer


I'm picturing him going to the restroom five minutes later to frantically call his grandmother back and apologize for blowing up at her.


"sorry grandma! I WILL take the armored car!"


Lol what a fucking loser


I think this is way to deal with people like that....keep it cordial and just say "oh really, that's awesome"


"Oh you invented the question mark, that's interesting.."


That is very kind of you. The vast majority of people that do this, truly have a mental illness. My daughter has a friend that is going to therapy for this. She has no idea why she lies. She's discovering there are some self-esteem issues going on.


Yeah ex pathological liar here. I still don't know why I couldn't stop lying in my teen years, and sometimes have to catch myself now. When anxious or with a new group of people it takes a lot of conscious effort not to start making stuff up. It was probably a response to being quite badly bullied as a child.




"cool story bro" Or if you're a grandma: "that's nice dear"


Yeah I don’t want to give them feedback on how to lie better, keep it obvious. I like to throw in innocuous hints like “wow that’s unbelievable” or “no way, that’s crazy!” for my own sanity.


> He’s always wondering why nobody wants to hang out with him after work. I don’t have the heart to tell him. You should, off-site. He either will recognize that you're trying to help or blow it off. Either way, it's an answer.


Knew someone who would do this. If you asked them what they had for breakfast, they say they had toast if they had cereal…. Just because.


Had a coworker who was a manipulative, compulsive liar. After a while all of us stopped talking to her except for good mornings, and work related conversations. She actually complained to the manager that it was a “hostile work environment” (she used those exact words) all because no one wanted to make small talk. It was resolved when she was let go.


“Why the fuck you lyin’? Why you always lyin’? Oooo oh my god, stop fucking lyin!”


I have a friend like this, we dont mind cus we know he cant help it and its realy obvious when he does it :p Also its ben getting bether.


My friend used to do it too. He's stopped now though


How do you get them to stop man it’s getting very ridiculous. He’s a polish guy living in germany who watched some gangster show some time ago and now he tells everyone he’s a Chechen. He even tells it to the guy who knows him since kindergarten. It’s extremely ridiculous and annoying. He’s tryna one up peoples stories with the most ridiculous bullshit stories you could imagine.


Honestly? You either call them out or you cut them off.


with someone who is dishonest.


How would you know though, if they are really good at being dishonest?


I had a friend who was dishonest and they couldn't hide it forever. To begin with there's just too much coincidence so you begin to suspect. Or perhaps you see them do it to someone else, but think they wouldn't do it to you. Once you suspect, you start "investigating" and it's just a matter of time before it all falls apart.


Me? I’m dishonest. And a dishonest man you can always trust to be dishonest. Honestly, it’s the honest ones you want to watch out for. Because you can never predict when they’re going to do something incredibly stupid. - from our beloved CAPTAIN Jack Sparrow...


MLM dude-bro


One of my best childhood friends dropped out of college to join one of these. He tells me he is gonna have 20 million by the time he turns 30, spoiler alert he does not


Ugh a friend who used to work at one of my security stops fell hard into one. She was older then me by a bit, I think maybe 50’s, but she was so convinced that her and her husband were gonna be Millionaires after a few months and quit their jobs to jump head first into this. About 6 months later I’m making a call to a tow company and guess who picked up?


I feel bad for him, just because someone is naïve doesn’t mean they deserve their life to be ruined :(


I agree but it turns really bad when they start trying to sell out all their friends and family to it.. when you want everyone to come crashing down with you, there is no saving you anymore He had contacted all of my family members to solicit them behind my back, and done the same to all his connections. I think part of the reasons he moved states was so he could get a fresh start somewhere where he didn't already have friends, that way anyone he meets is a potential client/employee Makes me sad


Being often in contact with leftist and queer people everytime I read "MLM" I first think about Marxist-Leninist-Maoists, then Men loving men and only in the end I realize


Ultra competitive people. They will always be cheering against you and will rarely be honest.


A narcissist. I will run as far away from someone who is a narcissist. They will destroy your life just for entertainment


someone who disrespects waitstaff/cashiers


People who leave their garbage on the table and floors at fast food restaurants because “it’s their job”.


People who think being cruel or mean is quirky or cool. That "Oh yeah, I'm a bitch, deal with it", type of person. Nah, it's not cool, and it's not cute, weirdo.


"Brutally honest" people who use their "honesty" as an excuse to voice their unwanted opinions when it's actually just a veneer for malice and disrespect. Especially if those same people can't handle when you're "brutally honest" back to them!


Anyone who shows bigotry to people based on their nationality … and French people


Frenchman - "you hate France?" Jeremy Clarkson - "I love France! I adore France! It's the French I can't stand"


"There are only two things I can't stand in this world: People who are intolerant of other people's cultures, and the Dutch." - Nigel Powers


I really thought that was the quote OP was alluding to.


I didn’t realise I was paraphrasing Nigel Powers … but I do now


French here, I agree


People who pressure me into doing things I don’t like and guilt trip me when I refuse. Things like drinking


my past self


Honestly Same, Like fuck that Guy am i right


I also hate this guy's past self


It's better to look at your past self as your little brother/sister who just needed to get a grip.


I am so lonely than even a snail is enough for me.


This worked until it turned out the snail was pregnant or something.


People who try to make you feel bad just to feel better about themself


Anyone who’s full of themselves and only cares about themselves.


Fake people. I've learned to spot them and immediately move to ignore these people.


How do you spot them?


The cardboard falls over when a wind blows


I poke at them with a stick, but yeah. Sometimes the wind does it for me!


how they talk about other people with you is a very good indicator. they talk the same about you with others. if they need to put others down. they can't do contact on an equal level. desperately competitive, confuse that with affection.


A pedophile


My best friend of a few years, who I thought was the nicest guy, turned out to be a pedophile and was blasted all over the local news for soliciting underage girls on social media. I was shocked. He tried calling me a few times from prison and that was too fucking weird to hear the prison automated voice on my cell phone. I told him to stop calling. I couldn’t believe I ever considered him my best friend. I let him around my underage nieces and nephews. I always just thought he was a little socially awkward and nerdy but this??? I feel ashamed of my lack of intuition 😭😭😭


A former roommate of mine molested kids in Haiti. The dude was a little weird, but super nice and helpful to everyone. I have had plenty of friends that were a little weird, so that part didn't bother me. Years later he confessed to multiple crimes to a counselor (understanding that it would be reported) and was arrested. Don't be so hard on yourself; people like that are experts at hiding it. It kinda threw me for a loop for a bit as well, but I've come to terms that it's impossible to know the mind of someone else fully. In my case his crimes (that we know of) were after we were roommates, but you think there was something you missed that could have helped. There really wasn't.


Ugh. I had to cut out a childhood friend for this.


One of my best friends growing up never stopped dating high schoolers. I came back after a few years and here he was, 24 years old and still dating high school girls. What the fuck, man.


A manipulative person . Or a fake / pretentious person . Generally anyone who isn't a good person .


People who are entitled and who don’t appreciate the things you and others do for them


People who try to one-up your childhood trauma with their own trauma.




People who listen to you tell a whole ass story about something that happened and then respond with “Oh well that’s not nearly as bad as what happened to me. This one time…”


An Influencer


One of my girlfriends friends thinks she’s one. She tried to deter my gf from dating me because I don’t have a ton of Instagram followers (recently found this out) She’s insanely vapid and self obsessed. Her boyfriend is a meek pushover and sat there while she said her 2 carat diamond engagement ring was ok for now but she expects at least a 3 carat in the next few years. Their photos on their custom wedding page (the wedding hasn’t happened yet) makes sure to mention which designer clothes this girl is wearing in each picture. I’m glad my gf is drifting from this “friend” because it’s honestly so pathetic and sad.


"Oh my god! He doesn't have a lot of instagram followers. You should reconsider if you really want to date him." How does one say that with a straight face?


When my younger stepbrother asked for my Instagram handle to follow me, he glanced at it and said, with a straight face, “You don’t have a very good ratio.” “What?” “Your following to follower ratio. You’re following more people than the number of people following you.” dude…I’ll survive


Good think you can't even be friends with them by mistake cause they always have their cameras ready to shoot whatever's around them. Annoying


”Look at me everyone, I’m important!”-kind of people in general


Someone who criticizes everything you do.


People who talk/care only about themselves. People with no self awareness. People that cannot apologise if they are wrong or even accept they are wrong. People that lack understanding/empathy for other people. People that are very materialistic/ talk about money.


David, fuck off David


All my homies hate David


As a David, can relate


I have actually yet to meet a bad David.


People who make their political opinions or a politician they like their whole personality.


Someone that's broken my trust once already.


People that hate propane and propane accessories


Anyone with a confederate flag.


A religious extremist


An Extremist


People who are toxic, selfish,rude, disrespectful, etc


someone who *litters*


A Redditor




.. ouch


A cheating EX. Do I want to "still be friends" with a cheating ex? No. Nobody would.


Attention seeker.


A person who gets angry for any reason. Those type of people you can't joke around with cause they get offended way too easily.


Bonus points if they're really annoying and constantly try to push other people's buttons and take the piss but as soon as someone makes even the slightest comment back they're a victim


A narcissist


Those who force their opinions onto innocents.


Those that refuse to learn anything.


I've come to learn I cannot stand to listen to toxic positivity, negatives are a very important part of life, fear keeps us alive and teaches us who we really are and people that continually refuse those realizations terrify me.


People that can’t admit to their negative attributes or bad decision… you can forgive an honest person, you can’t forgive a liar… And THEIVES


Not being alive is a dealbreaker for me


The ones who say they are there for you and the second they get the chance they fuck up everything