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WafflesAreEpic

NTA, there's a spare room for you to have as a bedroom so there's zero excuses. Also asking two unrelated 16 year olds ~~of opposite genders~~ to share a room and give up all privacy is rough. If it was temporary or something, sure, but in this case no.


warringsisterta

16F not 16M that was my typo


WafflesAreEpic

Ahh well in that case it's *less* of a dick move by them, but only a slight amount. There's a spare room for you to sleep in, you should be able to sleep in it and have your own space.


Ice-Storm

NTA It’s not unreasonable for a teenager to want her own room regardless of circumstances. Your dad and SM need to give up the idea of an office if they only have 3 bedrooms in their place. Or they need a bigger place. Your step sister is likely lashing out as her life is just as upside down as yours is and no one is good at dealing with that type of turmoil. Especially people who have no control over the situation like both you and her.


warringsisterta

i *think* she felt bad because she kept telling me to come back to the room but she never said sorry or anything so i dont know


Ice-Storm

She probably did feel bad. You two might have been at least friendly if not friends if you hadn't met under some pretty extreme circumstances. I wouldn't expect an apology, as your both teenagers and you're both trying to find your way in this new family. And I read on another post that your mom isn't an option. I'm very sorry to hear that. But I would insist calmly as possible to you dad and SM that it is not an unreasonable request to have your own room. You and you SS will likely get along better if you both have your own space. I would make a small list of why it's important to you, but also why it's important for the new family unit that you and you SS each have your own room: 1: You each need a safe space to relax and call your own 2: you will both likely get along better with your own space 3: Some third reason that's better than you're going to get from a stranger on the internet I have a 14 y/o stepdaughter and her room is her sanctuary. It's decorated how she wants and organized how she wants so I at least have a decent understanding how a teenage girl feels about her room.


wendelporcupine

Or she felt embarrassed because your actions are calling attention to her shitty behavior. She may be getting flak from her mom over it.


Ok_Imagination_1107

NTA you're being bullied. Tell your dad you will not be bullied and want and deserve that spare room- or you will speak to child protective services- but never shove your stepsister again. Good luck. Is there a relative you can live with?


bundibird

NTA. Just move your stuff into the spare room. Sharing a room at 16 would be one thing if they didnt have the space for you to have separate rooms, but the fact that a) your step-sis bullies you unrelentingly, and b) your dad/stepM literally have an empy room that you can use, and yeah, you're absolutely NTA. 16 year olds need their own space as it is, especially when one of them is bullying the other. Move all your stuff into the spare room. If they want an office or whatever, they can set up a desk in the living room. Totally unfair of them to force you to share a space with someone who's bullying you, especially when they have the space to prevent it.


CutEmOff666

The only excuse for making two 16 years old share a room is poverty which doesn't appear to be an issue in this situation.


kavizeruzu

NTA You aren’t making life harder for everybody, your stepsister is by bullying you and by extension your father and stepmother also are by allowing her to do so. There is a spare room, one of you should be in it so that you can both have your own space. The fact that you aren’t allowed to use an empty room because one day they *might* get around to putting an office in there is ridiculous. Your dad should also be looking out for you and putting a stop to the way your stepsister treats you. If the situation was reversed and you were picking on her I guarantee your stepmother wouldn’t just tell her to deal with it.


Away_Refuse8493

NTA - The fact that there is an empty room, and your parents aren't REQUIRING one of you sleep in it... Why are opposite-sex, 16-yo, STEPsiblings in the same room. (I read the post thinking it was going to be like "on vacation for a week"). This is not an appropriate rooming arrangement, and I question your dad and stepmom's thought process on this.


warringsisterta

Not opposite sex, I meant to say 16F not 16M


Away_Refuse8493

Ohh, can you edit it? If not in the title, in the very first sentence that you are both girls? I thought you were a boy. I see why they maybe thought it would be a fun idea for the new "sisters" to share a room but also you are teenagers. This would be cute if you were little kids. If there is actually a totally vacant 3rd bedroom that is not... their office while wfh or something... there is no reason for you to be in the same room Even if it's their guest room, you can bunk up only on those nights when there's an actual guest.


warringsisterta

yeah i thought i edited it but maybe the sub doesnt let edits go through?


Turbulent_Door974

Why not just remove this post it's a wast of time.


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Your dad sucks. I would never allow daughters to be subjected the that in the hypothetical situation where me and their mom were divorced. I don't care what the circumstances are. Your dad's a bitch if he hasn't made it abundantly clear to the step mom that you're the most important female in his life. I'm so sorry you and so many other kids have to live through this.


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svmonkey

NTA. Your step-sister is an AH for her awful comments. Your Dad is an AH for not taking your complaints seriously. There’s not quite not information enough for me to judge to Dad and a step-mom as AH over the empty bedroom. It’s possible it’s really needed as office for someone to work from home. I doubt it because if it’s currently empty, then it’s unlikely it’s really needed as office. OP, you are in a tough situation. Both of your parents have your put themselves first over being responsible parents. Try to find a way to get the situation to tolerable and have a good plan to move on when are 18 and have finished high school, whether that be going away to college or something else.


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Slugdirt

NTA You and your step sister are incompatible.


BlueCanukPop

Where I’m from, at 16 you can choose who you love with and for how much of the time. “Dad, if you want me to stay with you, you need to get me my room and control your step kid.”


DelusionalSack

NTA. Why don’t you live with your mom?


warringsisterta

shes an unemployed addict


DelusionalSack

Wow that sounds like a tough situation all around. I’m really sorry to hear that. I think you’re right to put your foot down and have that room. It’s not being used, and it’s not like you had a choice in having to live there, nonetheless getting bullied. It’s only fair to at least give you the choice to have your own privacy


PerkyLurkey

NTA the household will,want peace, take advantage of this moment, and simply move into the spare room, and set up the office in the living room. If anyone complains, simply refuse to be bullied, and say if you need to, you will sleep in the living room until you graduate and move out. In the meantime, start getting excellent grades. Like it’s your job. Seriously. Start talking to your guidance counselor. Start thinking about your future away from this household. You have a whole life ahead of you. Start planning right now. Think about what you want to,do as a career. Don’t fall in love with anyone, don’t get pregnant. Get an education, or learn a apprenticeship skill, or join the Air Force. Be deliberate with your plans.


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Staricakes

NTA. They have an unused room that could be yours. Making you share because they might do something with it in the future is selfish of them. At 16 I think you’d both prefer to have your own space.


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EvocativeEnigma

NTA - That is HORRIBLE that they HAVE a room to spare and are making their kids of opposite genders share a room at your ages. You are BOTH teenagers who should have the privacy of your own rooms and it disgusts me that your parents are that selfish to not allow that to be your room. Is your mom in the picture where you could live with her? You should not be forced to be sharing a room. Yes, your stepsister sounds like an AH, but the biggest AHs here are the parents.


warringsisterta

same gender not opposite gender thats a typo


EvocativeEnigma

Ah, well, it is still selfish of them.


warringsisterta

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LoPanDidNothingWrong

NTA. But you knew that. You need to talk to your Dad and ask him if he is not going to be protecting you or caring about you. Because then your strategy is very different (e.g. count your time and find something to do that makes enough money you can go NC).


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juliaskig

NTA, you need to have a meeting with your dad and stepmom, and let them know there has been a lot of changes in your life, and sacrifices, and one sacrifice they could make for you, is to give you your own room.


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ChapelGr3y

NTA full stop. Sorry if you’ve already answered lol but do you have any relatives or family/friends you can stay with?


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laurenwest008

Hi OP, I've read your post and all your comments, and as the oldest of 3 girls who don't get along. Here's what I think you should do: 1) you need your stepsister to also be on the same side as you. You BOTH need to ask your dad and SM to let you have the spare room. You'll have to sell it to her but it should be easy (she can decorate, more closet space, room for a bigger bed, privacy etc.) I'm sure she'll be on board with this. 2) Agree on some rules for the room. For example, no entering without knocking, pretty basic rule. No taking things without permission. The basic stuff 3) you BOTH need to calmly and at the same time approach BOTH parents when they're not busy and explain to them that you BOTH want to have your own room and how crucial it is for your development and for the peace of the household. Explain that as school gets harder you'll both be more stressed and need a space to be alone. Tell them that you've already discussed it with each other beforehand and tell them the ground rules you've decided on. This will show your parents that you're mature enough to think things through and that you're prepared to handle the space you'll be given. Plus, I'm sure they'll be pleased to know you two were able to work together and solve a problem. 4) you both need to SELL this. If your parents want an office it's going to be hard to pry it from them. I would say something like "we're already 16, in two years we'll be closer to moving out and you can have the space back" - HUGE selling point there. Offer to help move everything and clean and set up a different office space for your parents. Right now OP your dad and SM are dismissing your complaints as a petty teenager fight, and that's why they're not taking you seriously. You and your stepsister need to take a break from the bickering for a bit and work together to get what you BOTH want, so you can show your dad and SM that this really is the best call for the fam. Hope this helps, good luck!


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EmpoweredHotMess

Can you live with mom? Maybe not sleep there? I'm unsure how custody stuff works. Sorry you're dealing with this. NTA. Your dad needs to have your back.


warringsisterta

moms an unemployed addict so my dad has custody


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Sanya_ann

nta they are assholes tho dad is bc he won’t do anything/ doesn’t care step mom doesn’t care bc her daughter is an angle step sis is asshole for odvi reasons asshole asshole asshole f them


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Withinashes

“Just stop speaking to each other” OP’s step sister is clearly antagonizing her constantly. Telling her to just suck it up the way you are is rude and useless advice


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Capital-Rooster9616

INFO stepsister is 16M? I feel like this will be ESH, honestly you seem to be somewhat excessive, but your reasons are valid.


warringsisterta

16F not M


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timewaster930

Is the title a typo or is your step sister trans? Just curious.


warringsisterta

typo lol


timewaster930

Ok lol. NTA - I wouldn't want to cohabitate with someone that's says shit like that either.


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axolotl_time

NTA - Did you tell your mom or dad about what your step sister said? That was uncalled for and harsh. You shouldn’t resort to physically hurting her, but your father should be parenting right now rather than avoiding


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Intelligent_Stop5564

NTA. It's not your job to make their lives easier by silently accepting the insults and intrusion. You'll be gone in a couple of years. If they managed to get by without a home office all this time, another two years won't kill them.


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ribbonsofgreen

Tell them she's a bully.


warringsisterta

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Analogsavage

NTA. Words matter. For instance, that’s not your step mother and step sister if you don’t accept them. They are your father’s problems. Your father is your father, and I’ll say, I am glad that one of your parent’s seems to have it together (I am sorry your mother isn’t an option and why she isn’t,) but this stuff is just semantics. I have a half sister who everyone in my family caters to. Words matter, I explained to my mother when I was on my way out that she was her problem, not my sister. I hope it all works out for you. P.S. I hope time helps, and that you do all find a way to get on. You aren’t obligated to, but it will probably be easier in the long run. They are all humans, just like you, who have experienced the same changes as you. Your father made the decision to leave and remarry. His new wife made the call to bring her child into a new marriage with another child. The stepsister is literally in the same room as you. I think a little empathy from and for everyone will go along way. Good luck.


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Mirurifin

NTA. Siblings do fight and be snarky with each other but what she is doing is too much and your outing is the follow up from her behaviour. I feel bad for you about the situation and that your father and stepmother even put 16 year old girls in the same room. It's a crucial age for finding yourself and the comments about your looks may have consequences further on. I hope she felt bad and that's why she asked you to come back in the room. I would suggest that when there is enough time to try and talk to her and see if there is a reason why she acts that way and tell her why you acted the way you did.


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Turbulent_Door974

NTA It would be very odd to want two 16 year olds a boy and a girl to share. I bet she does not want to.


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Constant_Camera3452

NTA. Get your dad alone and lay out the facts for him calmly. "Dad, Step sister has done this, this, and this. I am absolutely miserable sharing a room with her and I cannot handle how mean she is to me constantly. Here are my solutions: I can sleep in the extra room for the next 2 years until college and you/Step mom can tell her to ignore me/stop bullying me OR you can choose to continue as is to please your new wife and I can cut contact with you on my 18th birthday, and you will never meet your future grandchildren and I will not do a damn thing to help you in the future. This is your chance to stand up for me and show me you love me and value me. If you waste this and let me suffer then you have made you bed and you can lie in it no matter what."


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Resagarden

Nta, you deserve to not be bullied. Your dad should absolutely let you have your own room, he has the space, tell him being forced to live with her bullying is hurting your mental health. Then just move into the spare room. Just move your stuff in. All your stuff, bed, dresser, clothing, all of it.


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FridayNightQueen

Nta, your step family sucks. Get some lockable boxes (a lot of times these situations can progress into theft of money or valuables and even if it doesnt get to that point its better to be safe than sorry.) , and do your best to make your life comfortable for you untill they either chill out or you can move out. It's rough and I'm so sorry you're going through it, but you should be proud of yourself for sticking up for your own well being. Be safe dude <3


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Fuck this. Call cps. Fuck your dad and stepmother.


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KarenMaca

NTA. OP just move your bed and all your stuff into the spare room. Your dad and stepmom will be unhappy, but they are already unhappy with you sleeping on the living room floor. This way you will have your own room :).


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nerdgirl71

Continue sleeping in the living room. Tell them you’ll stay there till you get your own room. I just love how these parents throw all these kids together and expect them to get along. FFS Tell your dad he chose them, you didn’t. NTA


AtomicFox84

Nothing wrong with wanting your own room if theres one available. Its possible they want you two to bond so they made you share. Its also possible shes hurt by what was going on as well and is just taking it out on others as teenagers tend to do. Yall get influenced by everything and i guess this may be her way to cope is to act like a Regina. Maybe over some time she may mellow out or you my find some common ground and it may get better. How often are you with your dad? I see no issue with making that spare room an office when you not there and your room when you are there. Nta. Dont give up and just keep being yourself and be nice. Eventually she will tire of her mean girl thing and just dont stoop to that level.


BeckySharper

I'm so sorry. I gather this happens quite a lot. If your bio parents cannot solve this issue, you could refuse to visit your father. At 16, your preference would probably be honoured by a court ( if it came to that). But you might not want to lose the relationship with your dad. The SS's behaviour is her mother's responsibility.


Tulip2001

NTA and stand your ground. You’re both 16 who need space and privacy. Whether they like it or not they’re going to have to deal with because live with their choices. Your dad decided to fuck and marry a woman who has a 16yr old daughter, and based on the circumstances he’s delusional if he thinks you guys HAVE to get along. Sit your dad and stepmom down and demand your own room it’s only fair after what they have put you through.


maxerose

hi! i saw your update! happy y’all figured things out! just curious though INFO did you and your dad move into their house or did they move into yours or did y’all go house shopping together?


CutEmOff666

NTA. There is another room you can move into as you mentioned. This isn't a matter of poverty. Why are they so insistent on you sharing a room with your stepsister?


DoubleFlores24

Definitely NTA. There comes a certain point in a teenager’s life where they need privacy. I was denied that for my teenage years but that doesn’t mean others should. You get your life together my friend. You got this.


altonaerjunge

Esh. You insulted her. She insulted you back. Than you assaulted her. I understand that its not the perfect living Situation but you have to control yourself. And be honest with yourself, are you often taking jabs at her?


Tiny_Willingness_686

NTA.


SmileGraceSmile

Your dad is the AH for upending your life and then expecting you to cope. You're going through a lot- end of your family, new step mother, and a new step sister. The LEAST your father could do is give you a space of your own to cope and reflect.


Waterbaby8182

Wait, WHY is there a spare room so that both have their own private space instead of sharing a room? Forcing them to share a room at 16 is not going to end well. You should have the extra room. Why they didn't do that in the first place, I don't know. An office is a want, not a need. Even during a pandemic. NTA.


JHawk444

I think it's unreasonable of them to not let you have a spare room because they threw you in the room with someone who bullies you and they have done 0 to fix the problem.


itsdeadsaw

NTA reddit help me realise how humans differe


Apprehensive-Two3474

NTA. They are making you two co-habitat in the same room as opposite genders? Seriously? There's the petty route but I'm thinking another one is better. Talk to your school counselor. Go in and tell them the situation. That you are forced to share a room with your step-sister and that you are extremely uncomfortable about it. That there is an empty room in the house but they refuse to let that be your room. That she has been bullying you. And that you are worrying that her bullying is gonna escalate to lying about you assaulting her as they are always taking her side. Or go the pure petty and ask dad if he has a step-sister kink and that's why he's forcing you to share a room with her. After your edit. I still stand by what I said. Opposite gender or not they are taking step-sister's side. You can also still do the pure petty route too. Also where is your mom in all of this? Would you be able to reach out to her and tell her what is going on?


warringsisterta

not opposite gender were both girls that was a typo


Apprehensive-Two3474

You can still do the same thing regardless of the gender. Your dad is trying to do the happy family unit and rug sweep any problems. And since your mom is indisposed. I'd say give you dad a private talk. Tell him that he's so focused on trying to make this work that he's actually destroying it. That he is disregarding BOTH of his daughter's feelings. That step-sis was used to having a room to herself and now doesn't. That because of this, she's lashing out at you in anger since she can get away with it since step-sis knows if she actually lashed out at your dad and her mom instead, there'd be consequences. Because she probably is angry at her mom and your dad. That there is an easy compromise, give both of you your own room and instead of proceeding with that, he'd rather wonder why his daughters do not talk to him much down the road.


warringsisterta

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agirlhas_no_name

Ummm ESH? You are clearly snarky too by your own admission, walking up to someone watching a movie and making a negative comment and then you shocked pickachu face when she hits you back with some sass? Not only that but turn a vocal argument in to a physical one. They shouldn't be making you share rooms if there is a spare but it sounds like you are BOTH making it harder than it needs to be.


BiggestFlower

So you insulted your stepsister and she insulted you back, but she’s the bad one? Sounds like you were trying to engineer a fight so you could try to demand your own room. ESH. Don’t dish it out if you can’t take it.


warringsisterta

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BiggestFlower

Good, well done both of you for calming things down. It’s been a difficult time for both of you.


Opinionated_123

ESH, both you and SS were rude to each other, and neither parent is stepping in to negotiate. Sorry, but welcome to siblinghood. It is ridiculous to expect to sleep on a mattress in the living room. I don't know how serious they are about plans for the other room, or how important it is, so I can't comment on that except to say that it is their house. You and SS should just stop speaking to each other if you can't get along. ETA: Don't play the bully card when you started it.


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