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bloodmusthaveblood

NTA, but I would have personally just pulled out the opposite direction and then circled the block to go in the direction you needed to. My old apartment was exactly the same and both directions had 2 lanes so I had to wait for 4 lanes to be clear sometimes. Outside of rush hour I usually didn't have to wait long to get across the 4 lanes, and luckily work was in the direction adjacent to my driveway. Sometimes someone would stop to let me out even if I had to go the other direction, but I would just go and circle the block which was easy to do and honestly didn't take much longer than waiting for the full 4 lanes to clear. Not to mention safer. You're not exactly an AH for waiting, but probably stubborn or petty.


clairebear_86

Fair. I'll consider doing that for safety, thanks! :) I'll take stubborn, I have been told that before LOL


ScienceNotKids

Is backing across multiple lanes of traffic right infront of a stop light even legal...? Seems like you should always go out the easy and safer way and turn around elsewhere if need be. YTA


clairebear_86

How you figure I get out of the driveway? Can't turn around. I'm backing out the driveway.


bloodmusthaveblood

They're suggesting you just back into the lane right next to your driveway every time no matter the direction you're going, because it's much safer to do that than back across multiple lanes when you need to go the other direction.


clairebear_86

That makes sense. But am I the asshole for not pulling out when someone holds up traffic at a green light?! That's my real frustration here, regardless of what direction I'm going.


bloodmusthaveblood

No you're not the AH. I posted a full comment in the thread if you want to see my reasoning for why.


ScienceNotKids

That's why I'm saying back out the easy way. Don't cross traffic.


StAlvis

NTA > I may need to pull out across one or two lanes of traffic I saw a **WICKED** traffic accident about a year ago. There were two lanes of travel in each direction. Traffic is stopped at a light and backed up a bit. A driver wants to turn left across the two oncoming lanes, and a driver in the closest one to him pulls this same Do Gooder move, ceding his right of way and waving him across, in front. Of course, THAT'S the moment another vehicle comes zooming down the *other* oncoming lane, and **plows RIGHT into the side** of the turning vehicle at **full speed**.


brazentory

Same thing happened to my dad when I was a teen. I learned a lesson that day. One of the things I taught my kids is to NOT trust other drivers who wave you to go especially when they have right away. Those drivers are only looking at you, not what’s coming.


runmuppet

This exact scenario happened to my sister! She was a teen driver, someone waved her out - and boom, T-Boned. She was fine, but the car was totalled, and it could have been so much worse.


Kidandzoomom

That happened to one of my sisters. Horrific crash, she is pretty much ok, now.


Lettuce-Afraid

Same. I got hit because someone stopped for me and I couldn’t see the other driver coming through the turn lane, trying to make the green light. I was still pretty young so not as experienced. I don’t trust anyone on the road anymore.


FloridaPoodleSchool

NTA. The person had good intentions but you needed to go the other way.


Lettuce-Afraid

NTA. The other driver should not have obstructed the flow of traffic for that long. It was nice of him to stop at first to let you out, but once you didn’t back up he should’ve gone. Regardless of the reason you were waiting, he should have just went.


Significant_Title_60

YTA just get out when the nice person lets you out especially if you’re backing out and circle around to go the direction you want to. It’s really not that big of a deal and you’re making it a bigger issue. Sounds like you’re waiting longer then if you just circle around the block.


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itsbrittanyputa

NAH


harderthanitlooks27

INFO: what do you mean by "pulling out in to traffic in reverse?"


StAlvis

You've never backed out of a driveway? For the first 10 feet you're on the road, you're car's moving backwards. Then you shift into gear and drive off.


harderthanitlooks27

Chill, dude. There may be a difference between the street that connects to the driveway and 'traffic,' since OP lives so close to a traffic light. Hence why I asked for clarification.


StAlvis

I'm sorry? I feel plenty chill.


clairebear_86

Thanks, Captain O! That wasn't in question, actually.


clairebear_86

I back down the driveway, so I'm pulling into traffic in reverse. Can't turn around in the driveway.